Wiebe Updates

Two years ago today...

2011-01-31T15:04:00.001-08:00

Yes, I know that it was yesterday that was the anniversary of the accident, but was thinking about the fact that it was two years ago today that I woke up to a completely different life. So many things changed as a result of the accident, but I didn't realize the ramifications of what was happening until two years ago today. What a journey it has been! The first year was mostly a year of healing, rehab, relearning and change. This past year has been a year of adapting and celebrating what we still have! Plus celebrating the additions of two wonderful girls, brought into our son's lives largely as a result of the accident! Our wonderful Lord has given so many blessings, and those precious girls are 2 of them!

But now I look at the coming year as one of moving on. And in the light of moving on, I will not be continuing the blog. I want to concentrate on the establishing of a routine and one of the things I have to let go of is the amount of time I spend on the computer! Not that I've spent that much time on the blog lately, but in general. So if you want to continue to be in touch, I will still be on Facebook. If you are not on Facebook and still wish to remain in touch with us, please forward me your email address to mjwiebe100@gmail.com and I will send you updates as to how we are all doing.

Another thing that I want to focus on in the coming year (years?) is the writing of a book. I have actually started to put things down on paper (so to speak!) and will be using the blog site entries as part of the story. Someday, Lord willing, it will actually become a reality!

So one final thank you to all of you who have faithfully followed this post, and have upheld, supported, prayed for and otherwise shown us more love that we could ever possibly imagine or ever repay! May you be blessed beyond your wildest dreams, and may you give our great God the glory for all that He has done because of your faithfulness! Throughout our journey we pray that His glory will be known by all, and that He will continue to teach us, mold us, and use us in whatever way He sees fit. We pray this for all of you as well, and thank you once again for your ministry in our lives. Know that you will be eternally loved and appreciated!!

With sincere love and greatfulness, Judy (for all of us!)

Oops!

2010-12-27T08:06:00.001-08:00

Well, time definitely got away from me again! It's a busy time of year, but there should be no excuse here. I'm sorry for not having updated for so long. The last time I posted, the surgery for my eyes was next on the list. I am so thankful to say that the results were as good as I had hoped, and my vision is back to normal! NO MORE DOUBLE VISION!! PTL!! It is SUCH a relief to be able to see clearly and only one of everything! The surgery went very well, and the results were immediate. But the effects of having another surgery have set my physical strength back some. Perhaps its just the final accumulation of all that has happened this year - multiple trips to Vancouver for tests/appointments, our trip to Germany in June, the first (unsuccessful) attempt at the tummy surgery in July, Jason and Dani's wedding in August, tummy surgery in September, Christopher and Corinne's wedding in October, eye surgery in November, and now Christmas! Hmm, perhaps a bit much while still recovering in general?! So I'm feeling a little bit more lethargic than usual, and seem to be needing more sleep. I suppose I can give myself a bit of a break now!

Christmas was a wonderful time with our newly expanded family! We truly feel blessed with the additions of Dani and Corinne! It has added so much to the dynamics of our family, and we look forward to seeing where God will lead these two new families in the New Year. Aaron is really enjoying his job and had completed his first course to achieve his A+ certification! We officially have our own personal computer technician in the house! Ben is taking off this coming week, and plans on getting some work done at home and at our rental unit, which unfortunately is in desperate need of a complete overhaul. But that's another story for another day!

The new year holds yet unknown adventures for us, but we are going to start off with a time of rest and relaxation in the form of a trip to Costa Rica with my sister and her husband! We actually booked this trip before either of the boys were engaged or married! So it's been long anticipated, and comes at a very good time! We don't know what else lies ahead for next year, but we do know that whatever comes, it's in the hands of Someone who has all things planned. So in that knowledge we will rest well!

We pray always with thanksgiving for all of you who are part of our lives, and know that we are where we are because of how God has used each and every one of you. May you know the rich blessings from our Lord and Saviour who came over 2000 years ago to give life, peace, joy, purpose and hope for anyone who chooses to believe! May these blessings give you much anticipation for what is in store for you in 2011.

New Site!

2010-11-25T04:13:00.001-08:00

Hey, a big round of applause for Sarah Kesler, the founder and keeper of this blog site! I love the new look! And hope that you all enjoy the new picture of our family, taken just this past Sunday in the FREEZING cold!! You'd never know but it was about -27 with the wind chill factor! At least it was sunny!

I'm heading down to Vancouver (Abbotsford) tomorrow with Christopher and Corinne, and will be having some tests early next week. The surgery is on as scheduled, Dec. 3rd. I'm really looking forward to next week! And I'll update this as soon as I can regarding the results of the surgery.

Another bit of exciting news - Aaron got a job! And it is a job that he can remain seated when he needs to be!! He is a computer tech for a local company called CMO. He started this week Monday, and so far loves it! So PTL for that!!

More soon!

The Next Date:

2010-11-09T02:39:00.000-08:00

FINALLY! I have a date for my eye surgery! Dec. 3rd I will be going back to VGH one more time, hopefully for the last time, to have the surgery that we trust will repair my double vision. I have never been so happy to have a surgery date!! All is confirmed with all parties involved, so there should be no delays or set backs. That being said, I know that God has all things under control, and if there is anything that needs to be rearranged, I know He'll make it happen in His time! But I believe that this will work, and there will be no delays, and there will be restored vision! My Lord has worked so many miracles already, and this will be one more that will happen through the capable hands of the doctors!

Here at the home front everyone is settling down into the daily schedules again, and the honeymooners are home and settling into married life. What a joy to have them over for dinners or whatever, and to see their love for each other growing! And to have 'my girls' around is wonderful! They were worth waiting for!!

Aaron continues in his studies for computer tech, Ben has done his official training for his position on the special investigations team, and I am back to the gym and other therapy. The biggest help for me recently has been the introduction to the Prince George Brain Injured Group (PG BIG). I have learned SO MUCH from these weekly meetings, and has given me insight as to why I do what I do (or don't do!). Next week there will be a conference held in Vancouver for the Pacific Coast Brain Injury groups, and it will be transmitted via satellite to Prince George. I'm very excited to be able to take part in this conference, and look forward to learning more about brain injury and the coping skills we will all need to learn to develop.

I have to apologize for not writing that often any more, but I want to see this through till the 2 year anniversary. So thank you to those of you who are still following this and praying for us. I'll say it (at least!) one more time - we couldn't have made it without your support, love, and prayers! Hang in there, and I'll try to post at least once a month! It's on my "to do" list....now if I could only find it.....

Wedding #2 - also beautiful!!

2010-10-11T19:19:00.001-07:00

Our Thanksgiving weekend was somewhat different this year, but what a way to give thanks! Christopher and Corinne's wedding was a beautiful testimony of God's faithfulness and grace, and it gave honour and glory to their Saviour! What a joy to witness their vows and share this precious moment with them.

We hosted the rehearsal dinner on Friday, a full turkey dinner with all the trimmings! It was a challenge, but thanks to all the help from my family and friends, it was a wonderful evening. Then Saturday was, of course, the wedding day. Sunday we shared with family and friends again, but this time with Chinese food and a good movie to laugh at! And today has just been a lovely day of relaxing! The kids made it safely to their honeymoon destination, my family has gone home, so it's quiet in the house, but that's okay. There's lots to be done, but it will have to wait! Now and then I still need to watch how far I push things, and today was a good day to just take it easy!

Tomorrow I am going back to Vancouver to GF Strong for a follow up appointment with the doctor and physiotherapist. I'm looking forward to their evaluation of where I am at now, and where we go from here. It feels like this is almost the start of a new year, a new phase of settling in. The weddings are over, and now we all need to learn to live in our new normal again. I know I need to start developing a better routine, and get back to working on my endurance and stamina. I'd also like to get back to my music history course, so much is to be done.

Onward and upward!

Wedding Countdown...#2!

2010-10-05T00:20:00.001-07:00

I can't even begin to explain how wonderful the past few months have been! And now we have the joy of seeing Christopher and Corinne join their lives together as man and wife this coming Saturday! We have been helping out in Christopher's house to get it ready for Corinne to move into. He has totally redone all the kitchen cabinets, the floor, one bedroom and built a bed! It's been wonderful to see the two of them working together on this project in such harmony. We also had the privilege of celebrating Chris' birthday with his future in-laws and their whole family. They are a generous, loving bunch!! I'm so thankful for all the blessings that we are experiencing - forgive me if I sound like a broken record, but I just feel so overwhelmed by all the goodness around us at this time!

One interesting side note: today I visited the office of the Prince George Brain Injured Group (PG BIG) and will be attending sessions there to learn coping mechanisms for the problems that I am now encountering. As wonderful as it is to have most of my physical abilities back, enough to do the basic things I need at least, there are times that both Ben and I have noticed that I don't always process things correctly. I often find myself not managing my time well, or my perception of how much time/effort I need to do something is unrealistic. There are a few other things that we have noticed as well, and that is why I am seeking help for that. What I found out in my initial interview was very enlightening! There are many other things which I thought were unrelated, or 'had written off' as a result of the nerve damage or bad habits developing, that are actually caused by the brain injury! So that was good! I am looking forward to learning much more!

This week is going to be wonderful, I know, and I'm looking forward to sharing it with family and friends. I'm not sure what I'll do when this is all over, but I'm sure I'll think of something! Oh, I almost forgot...I recently spoke to the office of the doctor who will be doing my eye surgery, and they hope to have a date for the surgery before Christmas! That is such an answer to prayer!!

So keep checking back - I'll post more pictures as soon as I can! Hope your week is as wonderful as mine will be!!

Surgery is done!

2010-09-21T22:31:00.001-07:00

PTL everything went very well! I am done with the abdominal surgery (aka tummy tuck!) for the repair of the scar on my stomach from the accident last year. I am SO incredibly thankful for how well it all went and that I had no nausea coming out of the surgery! There is some discomfort (read: it hurts something awful to cough!) but for the most part, I feel really good! So for the next couple of weeks, I'll be trying to hold things down to a dull roar before we have another wedding! It's coming up so fast! Christopher and Corinne will be married October 9th, and we can hardly wait for wedding number 2 this year! Jason and Dani are settling down to happily married life, and C & C will soon be there! Aaron is working hard at his studies in computer technician training, and Ben is currently in Ottawa for a training course for his new position. Change seems to be the constant denominator for us this year! But it's all so good, and we just have to be thankful that we are here to experience these changes!

I am staying with my sister for these weeks of recuperation, and I'd just like to say another MAJOR Thank You to my whole family, immediate and extended, for their love, care, and support for all of us, but especially me. There is no way that we could be where we are without you!

I wish I had some major spiritual wisdom to share with you but right now my heart is just thankful! So please join me in being incredibly thankful for all the joys we are allowed to experience every day, even when they hurt! God is good...all the time!

It was beautiful!

2010-08-25T10:48:00.001-07:00

What an amazing day! The weather was good, the haze from the forest fires wasn't too bad, and everyone looked fantastic! But most importantly, it was a day that was all it should have been - two people who love the Lord committing themselves to each other forever! What a blessing!! God has brought us through so much, and we are so thankful for that. We look forward to where He will lead us next!

Now to get through the surgery...! Then another wedding...!! So much to look forward to!!!

Excitement is building!...

2010-08-16T23:46:00.001-07:00

As the days get closer (only 5 sleeps left!) to the big day, there is more and more excitement around here! Today was also Dani's birthday, and we celebrated with her family and ours together. We are so looking forward to many more such occasions!

Updates on the surgery - it is rescheduled for Sept. 15th, and I will be going down to Vancouver with Ben on the 12th. He will be continuing on to Ottawa to take a course, and I will stay with my mom and sister until he returns on the 26th. My mom is having a couple's shower for Christopher and Corinne on the 25th, so we'll be able to be there for that as well. Looking forward to having that done with!! (the surgery, that is!)

I want to be poetic or philosophical in this post in some way, but really, all I can be is me. I'm ridiculously excited about the upcoming weddings, and about my daughters-to-be! I'm so thankful that I am still here to be a part of this! And I'm so thankful for the myriad of blessings that we are a part of! My only prayer is that my strength will hold up. I'm noticing more and more that I really am not able to hold up under pressure like I used to be able to do! And that I don't do well in crowds of people! Hmm. That poses some issues for celebrations like this! I know that I'll get through it all, just may need a "time out" here and there!

I'll post pictures as soon as I can - keep the kids (Jason and Dani) in your prayers as they commit themselves to each other before God and family. I know they are going to have a beautiful day!!

Another change in plans...and disappointment

2010-07-24T23:34:00.001-07:00

So we're not finished with our journey yet. This past week has been another challenge, and another chance for learning patience and self-control. I flew down to Vancouver for a scheduled surgery to repair the damage to my stomach that was caused by the accident. It was scheduled for Friday, and we spent the better part of Tuesday (my mom and I) in Vancouver in meetings with various clinics and anesthetists to make sure that everything would go according to plan. My last surgery for my eyes was canceled two days before it was supposed to happen due to oversights regarding my requirements for the stuff that I need to be given to make sure my blood clots - it's the same product that my boys give themselves for their hemophilia. All the tests and procedures that I have had done have shown me that I am essentially a mild hemophiliac, and need to be treated as such in operative situations. So this time they were taking no chances, and I have finally made the connections with the hemophilia clinic at St. Paul's Hospital in Vancouver, also the same place where Jason and Aaron come for their yearly consults. They have a great support program for carriers, and it would have made everything over the past 18 months a whole lot easier if I had previously had a file with them. For whatever reason, it was never done. We had testing done way back when the boys were first diagnosed with hemophilia, and I was aware of my carrier status and that I required treatment whenever operated on, but it was always done at home in PG where they knew me, so I was never involved in trying to make the arrangements for factor replacement and treatment.

Now that this is all under control, one of the VERY good things that has come out of all of this is that the clinic at St Paul's is willing and able to provide treatment for me in surgical procedures done at UBC, where my ophthalmologist operates out of. My eye surgery was canceled due to the fact that there was no hematology department at the UBC hospital to provide coverage for me during surgery. So the doctor needed to get permission to operate out of VGH instead, and then wait for some other doctor to give up some OR time for him to do my surgery! Needless to say, I had no idea when that was going to happen! Now we can schedule the eye surgery to be done as planned at UBC, and the St. Paul's clinic will take care of all the arrangements for my blood work and treatment! Praise the Lord for that! I'm just waiting now to get a date for that one!

So back to my surgery which was scheduled for this past Friday. I went into the clinic (a private one, very lovely and professional!) and everything was going smoothly - other than the fact that it took forever for them to find a good vein for my intravenous! Ouch! The nurse was there from the hemophilia clinic, and supervised the administration of the blood product, sedatives were given, and I was taken into the OR. All was going very smoothly, and as I went under, I felt no fear, only excitement at having this all done with and the outcome of a flat stomach! Well, when I woke up I realized something was wrong, because I could see the clock, and it was only an hour later. The surgery was supposed to have been 3 hours, so I knew something didn't go right. That and I had no pain in my stomach. They told me right away that the surgery was aborted after 2 anesthetists tried 6 different ways to get a breathing tube down my throat. They found that because of my injuries, my windpipe has a very sharp bend to it, and they were simply not able to get the tube past it. In a hospital, they have other equipment to do it differently, but they didn't have it in the clinic. So I was sent home after a few hours with many apologies, a very sore throat, and the personal phone numbers of several specialists just in case anything went wrong!

All in all, I believe (as I have stated many times before) that everything has happened for a very good reason, and there was also a good reason for this. Had this been a crisis situation, the anesthetist told me that I would not have survived. I am now to have the information "failed intubation" inscribed into the MedicAlert that I wear. That would avert a similar crisis in the future. All that being said and done, the surgery is to be rescheduled for after Jason and Dani's wedding sometime in late August or early September, and will be done in the UBC hospital. Who knows, maybe I can get the eye surgery done at the same time?!!!

This is a lot of information, and I hope that it's not too much, but it needed explaining, so there it is. I am struggling a little to not be disappointed that I won't look as fantastic as I had hoped for the wedding, but that's a very selfish and conceited, prideful thought. So it's just as well that it didn't happen! It's good for me to put things into perspective again. It's just so hard when my vanity gets in the way!

Anyway, thanks for your thoughts and prayers, and I trust that you will continue to go with all of us on our journey, which as I said in the beginning, is obviously not over yet! In the meantime I had several opportunities to be gracious, thankful and give witness and testimony to God's grace and glory through the telling of my story to several nurses and doctors. His ways are way bigger than ours, and who knows what the outcome of that will be!

So I pray for continued faithfulness, obedience, patience, and a good dose of humility!! Have a blessed day! And thanks again for taking the time to read all this!!
Judy

And we're back again!

2010-07-13T02:31:00.001-07:00

Whoa, that took longer than it should have, but we are back and doing very well, thanks! The trip was absolutely awesome, and I don't think that it could have been any better - only longer perhaps! It was so amazing to reconnect with old friends and people who used to be "youth" who are now older than we were when we were there!! One of the neatest things happened on Sunday morning when one of the men came up to us and said that he still had (and used!) the guitar that Ben had sold to his mother. At that time he was only 12 years old! It wasn't until his young son, who is now about 12, walked up to him that I finally recognized him! Ben was so glad to hear that his guitar was being put to good use - it was his first guitar, and hard for him to leave behind. But knowing that God has had His hand in all things and seeing where things are at now made it all worth while! We had a very special time of worshipping with the church family that still meets in the same room that we helped to renovate 25 years ago! God is at work in His family all over the world, and to worship with them was very sweet! Oh, and our German came back very quickly! It was almost like we had never left...almost!

We also enjoyed a bit of sightseeing time, and some amazing dinners out (although the extra pounds really weren't necessary to bring back with us!). Aaron enjoyed seeing many of the things that we had once known well. If only we had had more time to enjoy it all! Ah, but the desire to return is even stronger now! The church in Traunstein needs a new place to meet in, and is planning on a building project in the next year or so. Who knows...maybe we could help out?! It is certainly a possibility! Anyone want to come help? Just a thought!

As much as I would like to report that we had fantastic responses to prayers for open hearts from those whom we had been praying for, it just wasn't the right time for confrontations. On the other hand, relationships were re-established and communication restored in places where we pray that we will be able to have an impact in the future. We pray that God will be able to use us somehow in the future, and we want to be available and ready.

Thank you for your prayers regarding jet lag - and I'm thrilled to report that those prayers were definitely answered! We experienced very little at all! Of course, we were a bit tired, but nothing more than usual. Aaron experienced a bit more coming home, and took a few days to really feel like he was 'working' again, but then he was there much longer than we were. I had the energy to do almost everything that I had wanted to do, and (mostly!) keep up with everyone else! Praise the Lord for His strength and good rest!

Next, I am scheduled for reconstructive surgery on my stomach to repair the damage that was caused by the seat belt. Essentially, it's a tummy tuck surgery! Never thought I would ever have that! The procedure will be done in Vancouver on July 23rd. I'm not afraid of the operation, but would appreciate your prayers for a quick recovery - the wedding is only 4 weeks after that! I want to be up and ready for it, not dragging around recuperating. I'll be staying with my mom and sister for a time after, and then my mom will be bringing me back to PG and staying to help me out after - bless her!! She is so giving and helpful! There is still no word on the surgery for my eyes.

As for the rest, everyone is doing as well as they could be. Ben is still struggling with some discomfort and is hindered in some movements due to the pain in his foot and arm. Aaron's back keeps giving him some trouble and pain, but both of them keep plugging away. Aaron is looking for work for the summer and into the fall, as he plans not to go to school this fall after all. Pray for direction and guidance for him as he readjusts to working life, and that he finds a job that he is able to do without pain or problems. Jason and Dani are only a bit less than 6 weeks away from their special day, and are very excited, to say the least! Christopher and Corinne have to wait until October, so they will have to be more patient! Christopher has been working very hard redoing my kitchen, completing most of it while we were away! What an amazing thing to go away and come back to an almost completely new kitchen!! There are still some things to finish, but oh, is it ever nice!!

Over and over again in the past month I have been reminded to be so thankful for what we have been able to accomplish and take part in! I pray that I will never take any of this for granted!

Waiting is sometimes a good thing!

2010-06-23T15:49:00.001-07:00

As I write this, Ben and I are in the Vancouver airport awaiting our flight to Germany! We are finally going back - the first time in almost 25 years!!! It's hard to believe it, and the timing is a little crazy (we are only there a week!) but it worked out this way, and we are very excited to go back! Aaron is finished with school in Austria, and we'll be seeing him at the airport. We are so glad that we will be able to see some of the people whom we have stayed in touch with over the years. My prayer is that the jet lag won't be too bad, and that my energy level will not be overly stressed. But still...Germany! It's going to be wonderful! Waiting for this day to come sort of parallels our wait for Christ's coming - we had no idea when we would be able to go back, but we knew that we were looking forward to it! I suppose that is about as far as it goes, but nevertheless, we have been waiting for this for so long, it hardly seems possible that it is actually here!

Thanks for your thoughts and prayers for us, and that you continue to hold us up before our Father. I'll try and keep you posted as we travel - oh, the joy of laptops and wifi! Couldn't have done this 25 years ago!

Blessings...wherever you travel! Judy

Opportunities around us

2010-06-05T00:43:00.001-07:00

I am thankful tonight for the opportunity that we had this evening to again share our story of the miracles that God has done in us and through us. We were able to share with a crowd of about 150 high school students the impact of the past year and a bit on our lives, and that in spite of the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual struggles that we have had/are still having, that God is always in control. We shared with them verses that were special to us, scripture that carried us through, and gave God the glory for the way He was and still is in control. Our focus was to help them see that regardless of what they go through, that God can make good come out of it if they give their lives to Him to control. Sharing this is always a good reminder for me not to fall back into complacency or to take any of the many things that I can still do for granted! And I am grateful to be reminded!

After the evening was over, several of the kids came and thanked us for sharing. Some cried, others praised God with us, and a few said that they had been in the line of cars behind us the day of the accident, and that they had prayed for us as they finally passed the scene. They were able now to put a face and a name to the prayer request, and that was also a blessing for us to again see how many God raised up to pray!

And now it is my turn to uphold a friend in prayer. Yesterday I received word through Facebook that a former work colleague of mine was diagnosed with leukemia that day. She is going down to Vancouver today and will be starting intense chemotherapy on Monday. Pam is a young, vibrant Christian mom with a loving husband and 3 young children. Please pray with me for all of them as they struggle with the mountainous task ahead. They know that God will carry them through, but the road ahead may be very rough. We want to uphold them and claim a miracle to happen in her body, and that the cancer will be defeated!! And that they will sense the mighty and powerful work of our Saviour in and through them.

It's good to focus on someone else, and not on myself. Life is too precious to waste on introspection!

I am very joyfully focusing on getting some bridesmaids dresses sewn in the next couple weeks, thanks to some very deeply appreciated help from my mom who has come to be my extra pair of hands! And I get the priviledge AGAIN of being able to go with Corinne and her mom to look at wedding dresses tomorrow!! What joys are mine! In this, it is so easy to be thankful! But then I remember Pam and so many others who are still struggling and know that my task is to now uphold and encourage them. Also, what a joy to be able to do so! I am reminded of the words Paul wrote, "that we may encourage others with the encouragement with which we were encouraged" (paraphrased). Thank you, Jesus, for the strength and opportunity to reach out to others! Open my eyes to even more opportunities to 'pay it forward'!

Blessings galore!

2010-05-25T04:47:00.001-07:00

We have just returned from an evening of reminiscing and reconnecting with friends from the past - it is the 50th anniversary celebration for the church we used to attend here in Prince George. Many have moved on, and some have passed away, but so many have returned for this weekend's celebrations! What a joy to see so many familiar faces from years gone by, and to share with a few more about our story from the past year. Many knew of what we have been through, and several mentioned that they had followed our story on this very blog. Again, we are so thankful for the development of it, and that it has been a tool that so many of you used to pray for us and thereby keep us strong throughout our struggle. Once more I was challenged to put the whole story together into book form, and to be honest, I had sort of set that aside, but I think that I may again attempt to put all the memories down on "paper" before I forget the details. I was encouraged by one of these dear friends who has herself been through a "God Journey" and put it down for all to read. (Thanks, Cheryl!) There's so much to learn about how to do this, and it will be another part of the journey, but I think that with the right direction and proper guidance, I'll try again!

Our family has again had more joy to celebrate...our eldest son Christopher proposed to his girlfriend, Corinne, last Sunday! So we are going to have the pleasure of two weddings this year!! And more precious daughters-in-law I couldn't ask for! They both love the Lord with all their hearts, and fit so well with our family! What blessings!

Aaron is doing well in Austria, traveling with a group to Venice this long weekend! His back has been bothering him some, and has kept him from a few activities. For the most part he is fitting in well, and making new friends. Time is passing far too quickly for him, but we look forward to soon having him home again!

We were planning on doing some yardwork, but the weather turned on us this morning (we woke up to a light covering of snow on the lawn!), so plans have changed for now. That's okay - relaxing is also a good thing! Not so sure about the snow, though...!

All in all, more blessings than can be counted are ours to enjoy, regardless of which way we go! I pray that you will also be experiencing God's blessings! Have a great weekend!

Mother's Day

2010-05-09T22:55:00.001-07:00

Wow, here I am again, apologizing for having been away so long! Life is just going by too quickly, I guess, which seems to prove that I am indeed doing okay! At least things are getting worked out for the surgery. I still don't know when it will be, but it will happen someday. Aaron is doing well in Austria, and today is his 20th birthday! Wish we were there to celebrate with him, but we got in the party and all before he left. I talked to him the other day (thank goodness for Skype!) and he is adapting and learning what he can and cannot do. Mostly we pray that he will absorb all he can of what he is being taught about the Bible and personal growth. Living in the middle of the Austrian alps is a perk!

Today was also Mother's Day, and I was so blessed to have my other kids here with me, even though we missed Aaron so very much. Jason and Dani made us breakfast, Ben took us out for lunch, and Christopher and Corinne made us dinner! It was a gorgeous, sunny day, and almost perfect! If only all the good food didn't go straight to one's waist! Sigh! But, always looking for the good in everything, I am SO thankful that I can eat normal food!! And that I can be with my family for this precious day, and all the other days, too! God has been so faithful to us, and kept us together as a family, and is giving us more family to love! Each day is a new joy, even when there are struggles. It's all worth it!

I want to send out a special shout to the creator of this blogsite, Sarah Kesler. When the accident first happened, she took it upon herself to create this tool for all to check how things progressed. She also took care of our home and our dog when Christopher and Jason were traveling back and forth to Edmonton, and gave a huge amount of support. She gave without thought of recognition or recompense, and I can never thank her enough! But now she is moving on to a new chapter and a new adventure in her life. Sarah has been studying radio and television arts, with the goal of becoming involved in Christian ministry through this media. She has recently set up her website www.sarahkesler.com detailing her plans for the coming summer. Sarah has been accepted to be a working volunteer with Focus on the Family Ministries, specifically working with Adventures in Odyssey radio broadcasts! How exciting! Please take the time to check out her site and give her encouragement as well. For all of you that follow this blog, that can be your way of saying thank you to her for starting it all!! We pray God's blessing on you, Sarah, and will keep you in our thoughts this summer!

Carrying on...Judy

A change in plans...

2010-04-24T06:44:00.001-07:00

Friday morning Aaron and I flew down to Vancouver and I went to the pre-admission clinic at VGH for an appointment. While there, the anesthesiologist asked about my status as carrier of hemophilia, which led to some phone calls. The outcome is that my surgery on Monday is canceled. Instead I will be having an appointment with a hemotologist, getting looked over for what needs to be done prior to having surgery to treat my condition. So no surgery...for now. I'm disappointed, but for whatever reason this is the way that it is, and I will look for the plans the Lord has through this. At any rate, I will enjoy a good weekend with my family!

Friday evening we went back to the airport and dropped Aaron off - he is on his way to Schladming, Austria for 9 weeks at the Capernwray School. There he will be studying the Bible and taking discipleship classes. It will be a time of learning and growing, and we pray that he will do well with his health. We covet your prayers on his behalf for this.

I have to think of the verse that says that His ways are not our ways, and accept that. Why things happen the way they do is beyond me, but through the frustration I know God can make good result from it. So we carry on!

Another anniversary

2010-04-15T00:33:00.001-07:00

So today marks one year since I was flown down from Prince George to Vancouver to begin my rehab program at GF Strong. It was a good flight, even though I was on a stretcher. Today I flew to Vancouver (another appointment!) and did it all on my own! What a difference a year can make! I stopped in at GFS to say hi to a few people, and was again forcefully reminded of the miracle that God allowed to happen in my life and body. Medically speaking I know there is no explanation for the fact that I walked out of there last June. My heart was so full of gratefulness and thanksgiving! I don't deserve this ability any more than any of the other people who will never walk again due to lesser injuries. So why have I been so blessed? I truly don't know the answer to that. But I intend to spend the rest of my days making sure that I tell as many people as I can that God is still in the business of miracles! Especially ones within the heart. Of all the healing that has taken place in my life this past year, I KNOW that this are needed the most work. And I know that I am still a work in progress. Lord, thank you so much for each and every day that you gift me here, so that perhaps one more person might understand exactly who you are and what you want to do in their life!

I am enjoying today and tomorrow here in Vancouver with my sister, and plan to spend the day with her tomorrow celebrating her birthday. I did have another purpose for coming down - I had another appointment with the eye doctors today in preparation for my surgery on the 26th. Everything looks good (pardon the pun!) and will go ahead as scheduled. PTL!!!

Sunday's comin'!

2010-04-03T13:54:00.000-07:00

Tomorrow is Easter Sunday, the day we celebrate the greatest victory ever won on this earth, and beyond! It's a day to celebrate what Christ has done in the lives of those who acknowledge him as their Lord and Saviour. It's a day to realize that without his amazing sacrifice, which is far greater than we can ever comprehend, we would be dead ourselves, without hope and without a future! Praise God for the incredible gift, and for the hope that we now can have because of his great love!

It's also been an year since the first time I was able to go to church after the accident. I was wheeled into church last Easter, and this year I'm walking in!! What a glorious day!! I am still so thankful for being allowed to walk, talk, take care of myself and eat (oh, yes, eat!!) and I pray that I will never lose that perspective.

I pray that for each of us, our minds will find that which draws us closer to Jesus, and be thankful for it. Whatever it is that makes you thankful, remember it is a gift from God. And for that which makes you frustrated or angry, remember that it could be worse! You might have a life without hope at all if it wasn't for Christ!

Have a blessed Easter Sunday!

PS - I'm going to try to attach a link to a video clip which gives me cause to think each time I see it. I trust it will encourage and motivate you as well!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=naajYZSbWdw - that's the link just in case the upload doesn't work!

Forgot the picture again!

2010-03-23T00:22:00.001-07:00

Here's a picture of our new puppy, as well as one of Jason and Dani (which was taken last fall). I don't have any pictures of the new glasses yet...soon! Enjoy!

All things new for spring!

2010-03-23T00:16:00.001-07:00

Each season has its own specialness, but spring is definitely a highlight for me after the dreary months of January and February. And this year spring came earlier than usual, which is always a bonus! The sunshine and the rain are washing away the last bits of snow, and it's finally time to get things started again!

And what a start this spring has had for our family! In the past 5 days, we obtained a new dog (her name is Sadie, and she is a 10 month old Shih Tzu cross that we adopted from our local shelter), I got a new pair of glasses, and my son Jason proposed to his girlfriend Danielle (we call her Dani) and will be married this summer!!! So I will have a daughter-in-law!! We are so happy for them, and they are, too, obviously! I'll try to get some pictures of them in the next post.

So we are all in planning mode, and not thinking about the minor difficulties of everyday life. Sadie is good for me - I have to get out at least once a day to walk her! My goal is to be more disciplined and scheduled, and that is one of the reasons that we decided to go ahead with the adoption. I just didn't expect to get such a small dog! But she's a sweetheart, and has worked her way into our hearts quite quickly.

God has given us so much to be thankful and grateful for. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about how much I have to be thankful for. Sometimes I need to remind myself to do so, but I do! Sometimes the things to be thankful for are very clear, sometimes not so much. I am finding that the more inward focused that I am, the less thankful I tend to be. So it is good for me to now have so much to focus on outside of myself! We pray that as we prepare for the wedding that all will be done to give God glory, especially the day of the wedding. Not everyone in Dani's family know Jesus personally, and we pray that they will see God's love through the two of them as well as through our family.

I can't help but think of those two precious Bartel girls that were traveling to the wedding in Vanderhoof but never made it there. And with the reminder comes the urge to pray for the family again. We will continue to uphold them as often as God brings them to mind. Pray for them with us as you are reminded.

May your spring be full of all things new, both inside and out!!
Judy

March

2010-03-10T03:35:00.001-08:00

It is said that time passes more quickly when you are having fun...I must be having fun! I can't believe that it is March already, and well into March for that matter! There are so many things that I want to get done, such as regularly posting to this blog, but don't seem to get to do them! So this is the message for my blog today - in the past most of my prayer requests had to do with physical issues, but today I'm asking for prayer for my lack of motivation and discipline. I have recovered enough to be able to function at a semi-normal level (in the 'new normal'!), but there are still so many days that I don't have the energy or willpower to do what I would like to do. There are so many things that I'd like to do - projects that I have been keeping for 'someday' and 'when I have time'. Well, now I have time, but not the energy or drive. So that is my prayer request. Thanks!

One thing that has come about recently is that I have a date for the surgery for my eyes - April 26th. I am very excited about being able to have single vision again! I was able to book the flights today, and will be flying down with Aaron on the 23rd. He will then be continuing on to Austria for 2 months! He will be attending Tauernhof, a school run by Capernwray Ministries, in Schladming, Austria. We are all very thrilled that he is able to do this! Although I must say that I am very tempted to go with him!!

But for now, I should try to get back to sleep - this is another problem, that I don't always sleep at night. I wake up after a few hours of sleep and sometimes can't fall back to sleep again. At least it gives me time to do things like this!! I like the nighttime, though - it's so quiet and peaceful. But I know that sleep is important, too, so I'll leave this for now and try to get some more!

Thank you all for your prayers and the encouragement you continue to give by simply checking back here now and then. It is still a wonder to me that God is choosing to use this in such a mighty way!! Have a great day, and don't forget to give Him the glory for everything, regardless what it is!

I'm still here!

2010-02-21T21:54:00.001-08:00

Well, from the initial lack of response, I just about gave up the blog! But even though there have been very few comments, either here of elsewhere, the few of you who did take time to let me know how much this site has meant to you - thank you! Your words have encouraged and challenged me to keep allowing God to do His work and continue His plan. And for the others who may have thought it but didn't say anything, thank you too! It seems as if this is something that is far greater than just our family here, which we know. It's still a wonder to me that God has chosen to use us and our experiences to be a tool for good! I am so thankful for the fact that I can know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that God is definitely in control!! So with that in mind, I will continue to post, even if it's only once a month. I will try to get back here more often, but post I shall!!

We continue to progress, slowly but surely. Ben now has a fancy brace for his leg that is to help support and protect it. Not sure yet if it will help, but it certainly can't hurt - well, not much, anyway! He continues to go to physio once a month, and is working on becoming more active on the treadmill. Aaron is enjoying being at home, and will be looking for a job until he leaves for Capernwray School in Schladming, Austria in April. His back pains him occasionally, but for the most part, he can cope with the problems as they come. I am trying to get myself to the gym but have had a bad week this past week. Just no ambition or motivation to get anything done, and I wasn't sleeping well again. But I talked to my doctor on Friday and she made some adjustments to my medications. I hope that this will keep things more steady for me.

This coming week is the local music festival, and I hope to be able to attend many of the sessions. Some of my past students are now with other teachers, and there are many others whose progress I have enjoyed watching over the years. It is always a pleasure to listen to the many talented people in this city! So even though I'm not teaching, I enjoy the chance to learn and observe.

In church this morning our pastor spoke about having clean hands - metaphorically speaking about the need for us to be real, not just acting like Christians. It was an excellent challenge, and a good reminder to get deep and not just pretend. I have a book as well that I never finished reading entitled "Stop acting like a Christian - just BE one!". I think this is a good time to finish reading it! That's my challenge for this week. I hope you find yours!!

February...

2010-02-11T02:08:00.001-08:00

Honestly, I never meant for this much time to elapse since my last post. I can't believe that it has been almost 2 weeks! I've had a wonderful time in Vancouver and Victoria, doing some relaxing and attending some appointments. Here's a quick recap:
- First, the wedding on the 30th of my nephew was absolutely beautiful, even if it was raining outside. It was so good to be surrounded by family and friends that day, the one year anniversary of the accident. We ended the evening with a time of prayer with our boys who were all down for the wedding as well. What a privilege to share such a blessed time, reflecting on how different things are now compared to then. We are so aware of the many, many miracles that we have been a part of, and continue to be amazed at the honor that has been given to us to have been brought through the fire!
- Second, Aaron and I took a few days to putz around Victoria. I had forgotten how beautiful that city was! We enjoyed the warm weather, the ocean and just having fun together. We did some of the 'tourist' things, and rented a car for a day, driving around the coastal areas. It was a great break for both of us from the regular routine.
- Third, Christopher and I had some time to hang out in Vancouver as well, and I especially enjoyed attending church with him last Sunday. Being able to stay with my brother and his wife, which is where Christopher is staying while he is at BCIT, was another treat. Christopher will be finished his apprenticeship program this Friday, and I'll be traveling back to PG with him. I feel such joy in being able to spend time like that with my boys, and that they want to spend time with this old lady!! Now if I could only get to spend some time with Jason...!
- Fourth, I've been cleared for surgery on my eyes! I don't have a date yet, but the doctor determined that the surgery should be successful in restoring my eyesight back to normal!! PTL!! For now I will continue to wear a prism on my glasses, which allows me to see single vision for the most part. The surgery will probably be in April, and I can hardly wait!
- Fifth, I've been able to observe some of the Olympic hoopla going on here at the coast.Today we even got to watch the Russian pairs skaters during one of their practice sessions. What grace and control! It reminds me how much we need to work at letting Christ have control of what we do, just like the athletes are controlled by the coaches on the sidelines, who made them repeat segments of their programs over and over again. The final performance that we see on TV is like how most people observe each other - not seeing the hours of grueling preparation that result in the 3 minutes of seemingly effortless gliding and spinning, or the coach who trained them to become who they are. But our 'performance' needs to be a reflection of our 'coach' and His influence on our lives.
It's been a great time here, but I'm very much looking forward to being home again. Not having a routine leaves me more tired, but the weather here has been so fantastic that it will be hard to leave that behind! A few things to keep praying about:
- Continue to uphold the Bartel family
- Ben has been experiencing more pain in his foot and ankle. He has had it x-rayed, and is looking for some answers as to how to deal with it. We should have results sometime next week.
- Aaron will be looking for what to do for the next few months. He would like to go to Capernwray in Austria in April, and we are encouraging him to do that. It's costly, but worth the time and money for the understanding and insight to one's own faith that it gives.
- That we will continuously and joyfully be a testimony to the grace and glory of God in whatever way He sees fit. We all appreciate your interest in our lives so dearly, and thank you again for your love and prayers. Once I'm home again, and have established myself back into a routine, I hope to be able to give more of my time to things of importance, and keeping in touch with people is one of those things. I wasn't sure if I should continue this blog or not, but if you are still interested and think that it has a purpose, please let me know. If there is enough interest, then I guess that will be my answer! Until soon!!

Remembering...

2010-01-30T09:36:00.001-08:00

It is one year ago today that we set out for Breakforth in Edmonton, and ended up arriving there in a much different way than we planned. I just want to thank every one who has followed our story and given us support in so many ways, and especially give God the glory for bringing us through! Today will be a day of celebration as we are with my family for the wedding of my nephew. But it will also be a day of remembering and reflecting. We know that our Lord is good, and that we are here for a purpose. Our purpose is obviously not completed, so we are still here. But we sorrow for the family that lost two precious girls and will miss them until they are reunited again someday in heaven. Pray with us for the Bartel family. Their loss will be especially heavy on their hearts today, I'm sure.

As we get together today to be a part of a new family being united, we are so thankful for our family, be it immediate, extended or in love! We love you all!! May God be praised for His wonderful ways, even when we don't understand them. Have a great weekend!!

A quick update...

2010-01-15T08:44:00.001-08:00

Aaron is coming home! He has decided that the program that he was enrolled in is not for him, so he's coming back home! I'm glad, but if you could pray for him as he looks for where he should go, we would really appreciate that. In the meantime, he will probably look for a job to do while he is waiting.

As it gets closer to our one year anniversary of the accident, our thoughts again go to the family of the two young ladies who passed away. Keep this family in your prayers as well, as I am sure that they are still in great pain. I can't imagine their loss, and know that only our gracious Lord can give them any peace.

I haven't forgotten!

2010-01-11T23:37:00.001-08:00

Yes, I know it has been almost 2 weeks since my last post, for which I apologize. I guess I just got busy living! And that's a good thing! But I don't want to abandon this project yet - I had thought that I would at least keep it going until the end of this month - one year from the time of the accident. I realize that there will still be changes and adaptations to our lives after that, and perhaps some of you may still want to know how we are, but more on that later!

For now, the New Year has started just fine - peaceful and uneventful, just the way we need it for now. Ben & I had another opportunity to share our story with a group of international students last Friday night. It is so cool to see how God can use it regardless of place or time! It's always so encouraging, and a good reminder to look back at how far we've come!!

Other than that, things are pretty much as before - physio, speech therapy, gym and pool workouts, as well as a music history course that I'm trying to finish are what occupy my days. The idea of putting this all into a book is still in the back of my mind, and I did start a few months ago. Not sure of where that will go, either!

On a side note, we had a visitor over the holidays - the young lady who started this whole blogsite! She told us about another unique feature that she attached to the site once she saw the numbers climbing - a tracker that allows us to see where the people are that are following this. Nothing too personal, don't worry! We can only see the general locations (city, province/state, country) and how often that location is checking in. From that we found out that those of you who are reading this are from all around the world! We were stunned to see representation from almost every continent in the world that have checked this blog out at one time or another! Praise God! Now we pray that the testimony that we have shared here will continue in some way, all for His Glory!! And as long as you keep checking back, I guess I'll keep posting!!!

Blessed Christmastime!

2009-12-31T02:09:00.001-08:00

Friends, it has been an incredible year! As we have just finished celebrating Christmas and look forward to what the New Year has in store, we are again and again reminded of what we have been brought through this past year. Here's a brief update as to what our Christmas was like:
- Aaron arrived home late on the 18th, as we were sharing a "family" evening with Chris' girlfriends' parents and extended family - a great start to the holiday time! SOOO good to have him home again! (He is doing very well in college, and is not having too much pain in his back at this time - PTL!!)
- I was privileged to be included in a luncheon for the staff that I worked with at the orthodontic office where I worked for 10 years up until the accident - they are still so supportive and encouraging!
- Christmas Eve was shared at home with our sons and Chris and Jason's girlfriends - a wonderful, quiet, peaceful and joyful time!
- Christmas Day was a relaxing day of good company, good food and a good nap!
- Sunday we had an amazing time of worship and sharing the goodness of our Lord this past year.
- Monday dear friends of mine from the arts community - my 'sisters' on the stage and in life - had an incredible birthday dinner for me!
- Tuesday Ben planned a lovely surprise birthday party for me! Even though I found out about it (he accidentally emailed the invitation to me as well!) it was still a fantastic evening. My sister and her husband and my mother came up from the coast for a few days, and it has been so wonderful having them here!!

I have to honestly say that I have never enjoyed a Christmas more than this past one, at least that not that I can remember. And I have never been so happy to celebrate a birthday - my 50th at that!! The only word that I can use to describe how this whole season of celebration has been is "thankful"! I am so grateful to my Lord and Saviour for allowing me to still be here and celebrate with my family and friends what He has accomplished in and through us this year. Although the stiffness/soreness are still there, and there have been times where I felt myself getting frustrated, mostly I've been able to keep my sights where they should be, and look to the good things that are a part of my life now. Because of the accident, I've been able to relinquish all of my outside commitments, and focus on that which is most important right now, resulting in the quietest pre-Christmas season in the last few decades! I thought I would miss the concerts, recitals, programs and all the rest, but I found it so relaxing! I was even able to do a few things that I have been wanting to do for a very long time - like making new Christmas stockings for the family, and some beaded snowflakes for the windows. These projects and the wonderful food and other things that are part of our 'traditions' have all made this a very memorable end for a very memorable year!! Our hearts are full of thankfulness and praise to our Lord Jesus for His incredible gift, and most of all, for life!! I trust all of you have been able to experience the same, and that you will continue to look to Jesus for the joy of the season all year through!

Almost Christmastime!

2009-12-20T19:37:00.001-08:00

Hey, friends and family! Sorry I let the Friday deadline come and go this week - with Aaron coming home, and in all the excitement for Christmas, it kinda slipped away! But what a weekend we've had already! It's so good to have all the boys home, and Chris and Jason's girlfriends as well. The tree is finally decorated, the new stockings are almost finished, and now we just need to plan and shop for the food! Our celebrations always include lots of good food - at least we think it's good!

It's been an interesting Christmas season. Usually this time of year I am very busy with concerts, recitals, programs, parties and so on. But this year there has been very little of that, and it's been good. There has been time to do things with my kids and husband, time to read and have coffee, time to sleep (!!) and just relax. Yes, we're still busy, but not hectically so. It's somewhat a forced quiet Christmas, but we're really appreciating it for what it's truly worth.

Today we enjoyed attending a performance of the Nutcracker, which was truly beautiful. I keep waiting for the time when I'll feel resentful or frustrated that I can't participate in productions like that any more, but it hasn't come!! I'm so thankful for what I do have, and for the many other things that I can do, that the other stuff just doesn't matter - honestly! I so enjoyed playing keyboards in church for the worship team again this morning - that is something that I find so fulfilling, and have great joy in serving that way, that I don't miss being able to sing. But I'm still working at it!

So as you all go into this week before the big day, may you also find peace, joy, love and a lot of good times with family and friends. And if you can't find it where you are, let me know when you'll be arriving here!!!

Much love, and Merry Christmas! May Jesus be the Reason for your Season!

Once more, home again!

2009-12-10T20:30:00.001-08:00

Greetings from the cold north! Sorry that I haven't been able to post while we were away, but the internet connections were VERY slow, and quite expensive. So I had to make you all wait! But we have had an awesome trip, and a very enjoyable time with my siblings and their spouses in Cuba! Even though my luggage didn't arrive until 5 days after we got there, we didn't let anything spoil our trip. We had a great time of relaxing and resting, reading, snorkeling, and just having fun! We celebrated the fact that we were all alive and well, our anniversaries, and they even had the staff at one dinner sing me "happy birthday" and bring out a cake! Trust my siblings not to forget!! But it was also more than just a vacation - my sister called it "a vacation with a purpose". We were able to deliver medical and practical supplies to two doctors, an orphanage and 2 churches! We were also able to attend one of the churches, and shared an amazing time of worship and fellowship with them, even though we understood very few of the words being spoken. The pastor's wife translated for us, but the meaning and spirit of the service was more than clear! To see God at work transcends language barriers!

After arriving in Vancouver, I spent 2 days there having appointments again. I met with the urologist, the voice clinic, my physiotherapist from GF Strong, and the neuro-ophthalmologist. The urologist wants to run some more tests on me, so I'll be back for that in January. The doctors at the voice clinic noted that my voice has improved a lot, and that I am doing what I need to do to keep improving. The best news came from the neuro-ophthalmologist. My eyes have improved as much as they are going to, and so now he wants to have me see a specialist that will schedule surgery to correct them completely! We had hoped that they would improve on their own, but that's okay - the surgery will set everything back to normal. The success rate is 90 - 95 %, so that sounds great to me! It's day surgery done under local anesthetic, so it won't even be that bad. That will be scheduled for sometime next spring.

So we're back at home, relaxed, refreshed and ready to get into Christmas. Things were just starting to show up in the stores before we left (except at Costco, which has Christmas stuff out in August!), but things are sure in full swing now! Usually we are able to ease into the season - this year I feel like I've been hit with a Christmas sledgehammer!! But it will be a meaningful celebration this year, that's for sure. Aaron will be coming home next week Friday, and it will be so good to be back together as a family again. It should be the most restful Christmas that we've had in a while, as I am not involved in anything at all! Usually this time of year is so busy with concerts, recitals, church programs to prepare and be involved in, but not this year! So it should actually be a time of doing what we should be doing - celebrating the birth of our dear Saviour and Lord, and enjoying our family!!

We trust that this season will be as meaningful for you as it will be for us! May you find the time you need to focus on what is important, and to treasure the ones you love!

Bye for now!!

2009-11-22T14:10:00.001-08:00

Just a quick post before we leave for our holidays! We are off to Cuba for 2 weeks!! We are taking some things down (medical supplies, school supplies, toiletries, etc.) plus some specific things that the church has requested. PLEASE PRAY that everything makes it down safely, and that the customs officials will not confiscate any of the items. We are really looking forward to visiting the church in Veradero that my sister and her husband have been in contact with. We pray that even there we will be able to be a blessing and a help to the local people.

So I won't be able to post for a few weeks, but once we're back I'll give a full report!\

Enjoy the snow for us!!

Home again...for now!

2009-11-14T19:20:00.001-08:00

Once again we made the trip back from the coast today - well, today was only the drive from Williams Lake where we stopped to share the evening (our anniversary!) with friends and spend the night. Breaking the trip up this way sure was a welcome break!

We had a good week - Ben completed the work he needed to do on the file he was working on, and I had a great time playing! I even got to go shopping in Bellingham, Washington, for a day - boy, did I sleep good that night! We were even able to get together with my siblings and their spouses for a super (as always!) dinner at my mom's. All of us were married in November, so we had an anniversary celebration, leading up to the big celebration coming up next week when we leave for Cuba with the same siblings and spouses! It's going to be an awesome time that we are all looking forward to very much. It's been a difficult year, and somehow that makes it seem justifiable! But just to make sure, we're making this more than just a holiday. We're taking down some badly needed items that will be distributed to the local people through a church contact. Pray with us that all the items get through safely, and that there will be no difficulty at customs. And that we will have a safe, healthy holiday!

Back to our trip of this past week - I thought I should share that the drive from Hope to Williams Lake yesterday was a bit difficult because of the snow and ice on the road. We passed 5 vehicles that were on their side in the ditch and 2 accident scenes. After one of them, we simply had to pull over to the side of the road for a few moments to pull ourselves together. It's not easy to witness tragedy in any form. But again we focus on what God has done, the miracles He has performed in our lives, and how we may yet continue to give Him the glory. We know that He isn't finished with us yet! And for that we are so thankful!! So all in all, it was a good week, in spite of challenges. The upcoming week will be a busy one, getting everything ready for the big trip. Pray that our focus will not be deterred from what God wants to accomplish in our lives. May we never, ever be too busy for His work to be done!

Almost forgot!

2009-11-07T09:36:00.001-08:00

Friday came and went, and I didn't post - sorry! Things are just about the same here, although I just got a phone call that my great-niece was born last night...the first great-grandbaby in our family!! So welcome to the world, Kayla!! It's a pretty wonderful place for now!

We are all doing fairly well, and rehab continues. Some days are still frustrating, but on the whole progress is still coming along. My workouts at the gym are now concentrating on making my gait (the way I walk) better and smoother. I've had some problems with the jerkiness of my walk, and am concerned that when the snow comes that it will be even harder to get around. So that is my focus right now.

An update on Break Forth - they have decided that we will not be able to share this year, due to lack of time in the schedule. Hopefully another year, though!

Ben and I will be heading to the coast for the coming week - business for him, some unscheduled time with my family for me! It will be so nice to be down there with no doctor's appointments to go to!! We are planning on being home next Saturday, so I'll let you know how it went at that time. Blessings for your coming week!!

Blessings...

2009-10-30T08:54:00.001-07:00

Today I was sent a link to another blogsite, that of a gentleman who had a biking accident in August. He has a C2 fracture, and has just been moved to GF Strong. He is a quad and on a ventilator, but is confident that God is working out His purposes for him. What a faith! I was so challenged as I read his story. Right from the start he was strong and holding onto the strength he found through scripture and prayer. I felt almost chastised as I remembered my weaknesses and doubts. But I know that each of us takes different ways to get to where God wants us to be. I'm just so thankful that my Lord and my God was patient with me and surrounded me with people who encouraged me (especially my precious family!) to keep looking to Him to get us through. And Praise God, He is!! Pray for John as he transitions into life at GFS, that he will find the patience that he will need as they determine his treatment goals, find him his "rhythm", and adapts to life in the ward. There will be so many things that he will need to learn, and my prayer for him is that he will be a testimony to the many others on that ward that have so little hope!
This has been a good week for me - although Ben has been gone, and I haven't slept as well as I would have liked to, but I feel stronger again today. There are so many little challenges to overcome each day, but still the biggest one is to stay in the Word. I was again reminded as I read John's blog of how much I depended on my Lord and Savior in the beginning, because there was no other option. Now that I am again more or less self sufficient, it is so easy to go back to depending on myself. But it is not in my own strength that I can live this life, regardless of how well my body works or doesn't work. It is only through His power and His sustaining grace that I get through each day in a way that will bring Him glory, and that's what I'm here for! Lord, may I never forget that! Thank You for that reminder today!
Find your strength in Him today!! Hang in there! Judy (Ben comes home today!!!!! YAY!)

A Quiet Week

2009-10-23T16:19:00.001-07:00

Not too much new and exciting - had a couple of "down" days this week. Sometimes I still get tired for no reason, but still don't sleep well. I know it's all part of the healing process, but I tend to forget that now and again. So many things feel almost normal, well, more normal than a few months ago anyway! And then my body doesn't want to cooperate. Oh well, so it goes! I'm still WAY thankful for each day, and for so many blessings all around me. I can do what needs to be done, and that's enough for now!

Ben and I are looking forward to having a 2 week holiday in Cuba in the end of November!! We will be going with my sister and her husband, and my brother and his wife. All of our anniversaries are in November (no, that was not planned that way!) and so it will be a great time of relaxing and celebration. Right now, I think Ben needs this even more than I do! The stresses and struggles at work have really been hard on him. He has to be out of town for a week next week, then back home for a week, then away again for a week! Then one more week and we leave! It will be an interesting month! Oh, and for a piece of trivia for you - when Ben got the confirmation that he is going out of town for the 2nd week, it made it that we will have been apart this year more than we've been together! Not the greatest of statistics, but at least we're together!! That's more important than anything! We've made it through this, by the grace of God alone, and we've got a lot more to go!! PTL!!

This week in PG...

2009-10-16T16:27:00.001-07:00

Not much exciting happening around here, which is, I suppose, a good thing. We made it home safely from Grande Prairie, saw my little boy (Aaron!) who says he doesn't miss home at all (?), had a good visit with family, won a chili cook-off contest, and generally had a great time! This week I've been focusing on getting into a schedule, especially with my sleep. I find that if I don't sleep well, my whole day is shot. So that is my focus.

Ben has had some relief from the stresses at work, and is doing better. Chris and Jason are doing what they do, and we are sure enjoying have their girlfriends around!! Jason has written a few midterms already, and is coming through quite well.

Just looking outside at the wind blowing all the leaves off the trees - winter is coming, and I'm not too sure how much I'm looking forward to that. Oh well, it's part of the life cycle, and we should be thankful for every season, right? Right!

Keep in prayer for the leaders of Break Forth 2010 - I was notified that they had received my testimony, and will be considering how and where or if it should be used. I am also the coordinator for the registrations for our church, as well as working with other churches to possibly get a bus full together - I do not want to be driving that road again!!

Have a great week - keep being thankful in all things!!

I promised!

2009-10-08T21:16:00.001-07:00

Well, I said I'd be back before Friday, and I made it! This will be just a quick note to let you all know what's up for this weekend.

Ben and I will be leaving tomorrow morning for Grande Prairie, Alberta, to celebrate Thanksgiving with his family. A bonus to the weekend is that Aaron will be joining us! He is coming from Edmonton with his cousin. Chris and Jason will be staying home, but will have company in the form of their special friends :)! We will celebrate Thanksgiving together as a family later this month, which is not a bad thing - any excuse to have lots of people over and cook (and eat!) really good food is fine with me!

Speaking of which, we had a houseful here last Sunday for Chris' 24th birthday. It was an opportunity for me to try out a new recipe - Paella, a spanish-inspired rice dish with lots of seasonings and seafood. What a blessing to be able to do this! I am finding a lot of pleasure in being able to cook and bake again, with time for rest in between. My sleep schedule is still wonky sometimes, but it is getting better.

May this Thanksgiving weekend be truly meaningful for you and all those who surround you. May you experience the Father's grace, peace and joy in whatever you undertake. May the true Spirit of thankfulness and praise inhabit all that you do, and may your relationship with Jesus become deeper and richer as you ponder what you are truly thankful for.

Blessings! Judy

Forgot the picture...!

2009-10-02T02:54:00.001-07:00

October already!

2009-10-02T02:52:00.001-07:00

Okay, folks, I really didn't mean to go this long without a post! I hereby make a promise that I will post something at least once a week, just to let you know that we are doing okay if nothing else!!

But this week I did have something special - I passed my driver's reexamination!! Which means that I am now free to drive myself wherever I would like instead of always bothering my kids or having to call a taxi. So freedom has taken on a new meaning!! The driver's rehab course in Vancouver really helped, and I'm so glad that I didn't have to do the exam there. The timing all worked out just fine, as God usually has it!

An update on the rest of the family
- Chris is home from BCIT and has successfully completed his 3rd year of apprenticeship in Joinery. For his project he made a beautiful basket which he gave to my mom! (I'll try to include a picture of it here.) It's his birthday this Sunday, and we're going to have a great party!
- Jason is doing fine so far in his studies - linear algebra, and two difficult chemistry courses that I forget the name of. He has 2 midterms next Wednesday (Oct. 7th) for which I know he would appreciate prayer. He still struggles somewhat with focus and concentration, but continues plugging away. He works at Starbucks, as well as leads a group of teen guys in a Bible Study.
- Aaron is enjoying his studies in NAIT, and occasionally asks for a recipe from me, but is doing well fending for himself. The troubles with his back are not over, and he still has pain if he sits or walks wrong. He's learning to compensate and be careful, and is coping fairly well emotionally. Although he won't admit it, I think he's a bit homesick...at least for his friends! He has found a church to attend on Wednesday nights (he doesn't have a car, and the buses don't get him there on Sunday) and is trying to find Christian friends.
- Ben is also still having some pain in his foot, but has found that heat relieves it somewhat. Unfortunately, his work is giving him some stress, and he has some difficult decisions to make regarding how to handle things. Without going into too much detail, please pray for him that he would have wisdom to respond to the situation in such a way that will bring God glory and release him from his stress. Thanks!

I am continuing on in my physiotherapy, as is Ben. My range of motion in my arms has really improved, and they are starting to work on my neck a bit to loosen things up. I find satisfaction in being able to be at home and do what I can to keep things going here. I have been able to play either the keyboard or piano in church almost every Sunday, and this gives me great joy! I have also started (re-started!) studying for my music history exam. So I have enough to keep me busy for now!

One last thing - as always, we have prayed for opportunities to share our story. God led me last week to call the office of Breakforth, the worship conference that we were going to when the accident happened. I have spoken to the director's wife regarding being able to share next year at the conference! Ben and I have compiled our testimonies, and will be sending this to the director to see if God would have us share in front of the thousands that will be there!!! The coolest thing is that the day after I called, I ran into a friend who wanted to tell me that she felt that I should do exactly that! So we believe that if God wants us to, we will be able to share our story next January in Edmonton! Pray that His will be done in this matter. It would be an amazing opportunity, not to showcase ourselves, but to give Him the glory for what He has done!!

So, I promise that before next Friday I will be back here! Thank you to all of you who faithfully check day after day, even when I haven't posted anything. We covet your prayers and your encouragement, and are trying to pass it on! God bless!!

Sunday

2009-09-18T00:42:00.001-07:00

I've meant to post that I was doing this, but forgot, sorry! I was able to tell our story as part of our service this past Sunday morning. This was such an encouraging experience, and one that went far better than I had hoped. Yes, I still got all choked up, but I was able to stand and give God the glory for bringing us to where we are at today. Our pastor began a new sermon series on the book of James, and thought it would be fitting for us to share how we feel that we can "consider it all joy" regarding our trials of this year. Ben was able to share at the men's prayer breakfast on Saturday morning, and as I said, I shared on Sunday. If you are interested in hearing the sermon and my testimony, it is available as a free podcast through iTunes. If you don't have iTunes, you can download it free through apple.com. Then all you do is go to the music store in iTunes, click on the tab for podcasts, search for College Heights Baptist Church, and then subscribe. It will automatically start downloading the most recent sermon. Hopefully this will work for you!

Judy

September already!

2009-09-10T15:53:00.001-07:00

It amazes me that time is going by so quickly, when I'm not really doing much of anything! I just looked at the list of previous posts, and each month I post less and less. Sorry about that! It is not my intent to abandon this project, but there just doesn't seem to be enough time these days, which is no excuse, but there it is. At any rate, I am glad to be back home again after 12 days down at the coast. Here's a quick summary of what happened there:

- Completed the driver's rehab program, but was unable to do the road test due to the fact that Motor Vehicles decided that I needed prism glasses before I could drive. (Wish I had known that a week earlier!)
- Had an appointment (last minute!) with the orthoptics department and got the prism for my glasses! Booked the road test to be done here in PG on Sep. 29th.
- Saw the plastic surgeon, who will be sending in a medical/legal report to the lawyer. Looking to the possibility of surgery next spring sometime to repair the seat belt damage to my lower abdomen.
- Saw the vocal specialists, who informed me that my vocal chords are in fairly good shape, but might have some scarring on one side due to the intubation. I have some exercises to do which should help with the nerve damage, and I'm to see them again in December. The coolest part is that I got a video clip of my vocal chords as they were working with me!
- Saw the spine doctor, who told me that things are healing very well, and that I can expect to continue to increase my range of motion in my neck somewhat, but that there will always be limitation, which I expected. He checked over the nerve damage throughout my body, and was pleased with the improvement that continues. I won't need to see him again.
- Spent some quality time with Christopher, who is in Vancouver attending his 3rd year of apprentice school at BCIT. We had a fun afternoon with Jim & Ellie and Harold & Dorothy (my siblings and their spouses) at the PNE. I hadn't been there since high school!
- Took my mom to see a movie (Julie & Julia - highly recommend seeing it!) which was a ton of fun!
- Had a great time with family again, including a shower for my nephew and his wife who are expecting their first child!

In general, it was a very productive trip, but I'm glad to be home again. Now I really feel like I need to schedule my time wisely, and prioritize what needs to get done. While I was gone, Ben took Aaron to Edmonton to settle him in for school. He is happy in his home, and is so excited for the studies ahead. Jason has also started his courses at the university, so everyone around me is busy getting on with their lives. So I guess I have to, too!

One of the things that I want to continue working on is the compiling of the events of this past year into written format. Whether or not it will actually become a book is yet to be seen. For now I want to put as much of my thoughts and experiences into words so that I never forget what I've learned. Ben is sharing his testimony this Saturday morning at a men's breakfast, and I will be sharing this Sunday morning in church. We pray that the words that we speak will encourage and uplift, and that they will also give God the glory for what He has done in us and through us. I'll let you know how it goes!

Judy

A reminder

2009-08-25T07:12:00.001-07:00

It's early (6:30) and I can't sleep (been up 2 hours already!). Life still hasn't worked out all its problems yet, and I guess that I still have a ways to go, but oh well, it's a good morning to communicate!

We are still receiving so much encouragement and support, for which we are still very thankful, but we are realizing that people are moving on. Others are out there who are also in great need, and one can only give so much for so long to so many. I read recently about a family who was in a car crash, and only the wife survived. Her husband and young daughter were killed instantly when their van crossed into the path of a semi.They were missionaries on furlough. We pray for this woman, and the extended family, as we also keep praying for the family of the girls that were killed in January. There is hardly a day that goes by that I don't think of and pray for the loss this family has endured. At our family reunion I learned that this same family lost 2 other siblings, cousins to these girls, also in an accident. This is incomprehensible to me, and my heart grieves and aches for this whole family, and for the many others that experience tragic loss in this way. I can only imagine their pain. We pray that God will continue to uphold them, comfort them, and surround them with people to carry them in the days and years ahead.

Sunday at church friends of ours were there to witness the baptism that morning. These friends from way back are a great couple, and the husband, Marty is truly a special guy. Marty has spent the past 18 years in a wheelchair also as the result of an accident. He has such a great attitude, laugh and the coolest tattoo you've ever seen! As we talked, again my thoughts went to the question, not "Why, Lord?", but "Why not, Lord?" Why was I spared? Why were we all spared? For what purpose was I allowed to learn to walk again? What is it that I am now meant to do? I wonder and pray that as I seek to adapt in this 'new normal', if I will ever be able to understand what I am to learn, or if I will find my 'new purpose'. It was a very good reminder to not slip back into complacency, or just go along with the routine of physio and other therapy, healing the physical but forgetting the spiritual. I'm so glad that my Lord and Saviour doesn't set projects aside!

Judy

New Family Photo

2009-08-17T21:06:00.001-07:00

Hey everyone! Just thought I would share our new family photo with you! Not a formal shot, but then again, that's just not us. So here we are, thankful and happy! Hope you are, too!

Holiday Update

2009-08-13T10:48:00.001-07:00

Wow this took a lot longer than I thought it would, sorry! Seems I'm busy all the time, but getting very little done. But I've noted that people are still checking in on the blog site here, so I figured I'd better do this!

Our holiday began like many of our holidays have, with the car piled full, Tim Hortons in hand, and a prayer for safety as always. I must confess that this time I had a bit more apprehension than previously, as we were traveling again with Ben and Aaron in the front of his Jetta, and me in the back. Very similar to our last trip, and traveling the same road! But a word of prayer and some positive self-talk, and the anxiety left. I read, slept and relaxed all the way to Jasper! We didn't find the accident site, and that's okay. We now feel like we can leave that behind us and move on!

We spent the first night with friends in Cochrane, and enjoyed the time greatly. The next day we headed out to Taber, where we met up with the first batch of Wiebe's at Ben's brother's place. After a super dinner, we drove the rest of the way to his sister's farm just outside of Vauxhall. Many were already there, with many more to come. The weekend was packed with fun, food and fellowship, as well as much celebration, prayer and rejoicing. One special highlight was the presentation of a quilt that was made for me by Ben's sister Gertrude and others. On the quilt are 20 blocks, stitched by family members with words of encouragement and love! What a special surprise!! It is a treasure that will be displayed with pride! I was very overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and care again, what a blessing!

During the weekend we had two big storms, the first of which gave us quite the scare. It was a wind storm unlike anything I'd ever seen before, and hit like a brick wall on Saturday night. All 120 of us packed into the basement of the home, with stuff flying everywhere outside. We thank God that no one was seriously injured, as not too far away a woman was killed as a result of the same storm. A few of the tents were destroyed, but nothing more. The next night there was an amazing lightning storm, with wind and hail that damaged crops and homes in nearby areas, but again the damage to us was minimal. In spite of it all, we had a blessed time together, and are already planning the next reunion in 4 years!

We continued from there to Calgary for a couple of days, seeing more friends and family, and spending some time relaxing and shopping as well. Wednesday we traveled to Edmonton. This was a time for healing as well, as we went to the hospital where I spent 6 weeks after the accident. We didn't get to see all the staff that we had hoped to, but those we did meet were amazed that I was walking and finished my rehab. It was difficult to go into the ICU area, of which I have very little memory, but it was good to put that time into perspective, and actually see what it was like. We also shared time with friends who had been there for us during that time, and it was so great to be able to thank them in person! Another purpose in Edmonton was to find Aaron a place to live in the fall when he returns there for school. We were able to help him secure a room in a house with 2 other young men, which was really exciting for him. He can hardly wait to get there! We came home with no further incidents, which was welcome! All in all, it was a super time, and we thank everyone for their prayers that covered us over the many miles.

One other thing that I will share here - due to the encouragement of many people, I have started compiling my thoughts regarding the past 6 months into a format that may someday actually be a book! It's not an easy process, and I have no clue how to go about actually doing this, but it has to start somewhere, and so during our trip I pecked away on my laptop. It was a good way to pass the time and keep me distracted and not thinking about what-if's or what-could-be's. So who knows how long it could take, but at least I've started! I'm open to any suggestions or ideas...just let me know what you would like included!! I'd appreciate any help!

Day to day life here continues without much incident, other than that we finally bought another vehicle! I'm looking forward to being able to drive again after I do my driver's rehab in September. At least now we have something for me to drive! I'm learning to schedule my time carefully, and not take on too much at once. Physio continues for Ben and me, and I hope to soon add in water therapy at the pool. I have a new occupational therapist in town, and he seems very helpful and supportive.

Anyway, life goes on, and we are thankful for that! I'm still committed to posting as often as new developments occur, so keep this page bookmarked! We thank God daily for all of you, and now are looking for ways that we can pass on the gifts of support and encouragement that we have been given. Keep serving Him, for He alone is worthy!! Praise, glory and honour to our Lord, Jesus Christ, who gives us the strength to live each day for Him alone.

Judy

Home Again!

2009-08-07T18:39:00.001-07:00

Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts as we traveled to Alberta and back. The trip was exciting and wonderful, but it is so good to be home! I wanted to just check in and let you all know that I will be posting a summary of our trip later this weekend, but for now I thought I should let you know that we didn't find the accident site, and that is okay. We stopped at the side of the road on the way home today after we realized that we had gone past any possibility of finding the site, and had a word of prayer. It was a final piece of this part of the journey. But we know there is more to come! So check back in a few days and I will update you as to the rest of the trip...it had some incredible moments!

Judy

One more thing...

2009-07-28T21:57:00.001-07:00

Sorry, folks, I forgot in the last post to give you the update on the news story. This was part two of the story that began on Saturday. It focuses more on the time I spent in GF Strong, and interviewed one of the doctors there. I hope you enjoy it, and that God will continue to use this story however He can!

http://www.princegeorgecitizen.com/20090726204464/local/news/walking-wonder.html

Six months later...

2009-07-28T21:51:00.001-07:00

Well, it's time to check in again, and let you know where things are at. We are continually learning how to adapt to all things "new". Monday was another difficult day, as we had to put our dog, Ginger, down. We've had her for almost 15 years, and she just simply got too old to carry on. She fell a few times on Sunday, and hadn't eaten for 5 days. We are leaving tomorrow for 10 days, and didn't feel it would be right for Jason to have to deal with that during that time. It was hard to do, but we were all together, and actually had a neat time together as a family, sharing memories and thankful for the good times with our special, loyal friend.

Which brings me to the next thing - we have a prayer request for tomorrow. On Wednesday, we (Ben, Aaron and I) will be heading out for the Wiebe family reunion in southern Alberta. In order to get there, we will be traveling the same road that we took almost 6 months ago when we had the accident. Please pray that we will have peace and healing as we take time to stop and consider where we've come from and what we've been through. It will be a tough day, but one that needs to happen. We covet your prayers for not only our safety for travel, but also for mental and emotional healing. Thank you so much in advance!! I'll keep you informed if I can, as I plan on taking our laptop along.

It will be so wonderful to be with Ben's family for the weekend, and to enjoy their fellowship! This will be the first family reunion without Ben's parents, so that will also be somewhat difficult. We are so looking forward to seeing everyone, though, and having some time to relax and unwind.

Thank you again for keeping up with us! We treasure each of you dearly and cherish your prayers. God is still working great things, and we know each day that it is a gift from Him!! Give Him glory!

Judy

It made the paper!

2009-07-26T22:42:00.000-07:00

Well, the article hit the papers yesterday, and it was much more than we thought it would be! Paste the link below into your browser, or click on it (if it works). If not, just type in www.princegeorgecitizen.com and follow the links. We continue to pray that God will receive the praise for what He has done in our lives!

We also want to thank everyone for either coming out to the open house, or for the many well-wishes for this afternoon. It was a lovely time, and a wonderful chance to see so many people! The only bad thing was that it was so hot no one was hungry, so I have lots of leftovers!! Oh, well, more for the boys!

Have a great Monday everyone!
http://www.princegeorgecitizen.com/20090724204268/local/news/hanging-by-a-thread.html

Oops!

2009-07-24T10:17:00.001-07:00

Forgot to give you our address, just in case you don't know where we live. We are at 3009 Vista Ridge Drive in College Heights in Prince George. Here is the link to a map for it:

http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&source=s_q&hl=en&geocode=&q=3009+Vista+Ridge+Dr,+Prince+George,+BC,+Canada&sll=37.0625,-95.677068&sspn=49.176833,79.013672&ie=UTF8&z=16&iwloc=A

If you need further help, feel free to give us a call at 250-964-2216. See you Sunday!

Open House!

2009-07-24T10:12:00.001-07:00

Just a quick reminder about the open house for this Sunday, July 26th. We'd love it if you could stop in sometime between 2 and 5 for us to thank you in person for your support and care. We'll have some goodies for you to snack on, and looking at the weather forecast, lots of lemonade and water!! Please take time to come if you can. See you then!

Ben, Judy, Chris, Jason and Aaron

Two Weeks...

2009-07-14T13:04:00.001-07:00

Today it has been two weeks since coming home, and it feels so good! There are still plenty of adjustments to be made, but it seems to be working okay. I go to physio 3 times a week, Ben and Aaron go twice. Plans are being worked on to have me go to the pool for more therapy, and for continuing to build my strength at a gym. I have help with the housework, and my guys have been great helping out in the kitchen and with shopping. In general, things are going very well. I even went to practice with our worship team, but unfortunately wasn't able to be at church on Sunday morning. I have good days and bad days, but there are more good than bad. It seems I still need to pace myself and not take on too much at a time, surprise, surprise! That was to be expected, I know, but it is still hard to just relax and let others do what I was used to doing myself. Then there's the occasional night that I have trouble sleeping, which makes for a lousy next day. But all in all things are going fairly well. Being home is so good, and being with my family, friends and church family is so fantastic! Everyone has been so encouraging and supportive, and I am still overwhelmed by the love and support we are still getting. So slowly but surely, we are all adjusting to having me home, and that's the best part!

We wanted to let everyone know that we are planning on an open house on Sunday, July the 26th from 2:00-5:00 here at the house. Everyone is welcome, but please don't bring any gifts! We would just like to see as many people as can come, and share some time with you. Please spread the word, no need to RSVP. We want this to be a time of celebration and fellowship, so come and enjoy!

One of the exciting things that has happened since coming home is that we were contacted by a friend who is a reporter for our local paper. He wants to do a story to let the community know that I'm home again. He did the initial stories when the accident happened, which were really thoughtfully written and presented. We spent almost 2 hours with him on Sunday afternoon, and felt that it went well. We're looking forward to reading the article when it comes out, and will let you know when it does. If I can, I'll post the link here for you all to read.

In the past few months, several times I've been asked if I would put our story into book form. This is not something I have ever thought about doing before, but now am seriously considering. I'm not what I would consider a writer, and I'd need some help, but there is definitely some attraction to the idea. I have time now, and lots of encouragement, so with the advice from a few trained people, I am going to try! Like my reporter friend suggested, at first all I should do is "vomit" words out, and format it later! It's an interesting concept! So if anyone has any further advice, or is interested in helping me in this process, I'd love to hear from you. I am open to any ideas or suggestions!

We are really looking forward to going to Ben's family reunion in Taber, Alberta for the long weekend in August. If you are in the southern Alberta area and have time for us to drop in and say hi, please let us know. We'll also be heading up toward Edmonton after, to help Aaron find a place to live when he goes to school in fall. Please pray with us as we plan this trip.We will be traveling past the accident site on our way there, which will be an ordeal in itself. We plan to stop and have a time of reflection and prayer, and trust that this will help us to all overcome the emotional trauma that still comes from time to time. Also being in a vehicle for that length of time will be difficult physically for all of us, so we covet your prayers for that as well.

In the meantime, I'll keep on posting here as I can, even though there won't be much that happens from day to day. The healing progress continues, although much slower than before. We are all getting stronger slower but surely, and we thank God and give Him the glory for that. God is so good, and we are continuing to be so thankful for His grace that covers us each day.

I'm Home!

2009-07-04T12:53:00.001-07:00

Okay, everyone...I'm finally checking in again, and want to let you all know that I am home! I came home on Tuesday afternoon, and is it ever fantastic!! I was greeted at the airport by about 25 of our friends from our Bible study and church, and my loving family. I couldn't stop crying at first, it was so amazing and overwhelming to finally be here and to be surrounded by so many who have loved and carried us through the last 5 months (to the day, by the way!).

Since Tuesday, I have been busy surprising people! Wednesday we went to Fort George Park for the Canada Day celebration, where we met so many friends, even some from long ago. Thursday morning we went to Lo and Elliott's, where I have worked for the past 10 years. Friday we showed up at a rehearsal for the production of "Tommy" to see many of my theatre friends. Today we will be having dinner with some more good friend, and tomorrow I am looking forward to celebrating with our church family! We are so blessed to be surrounded and uplifted by people who share our joy with us and give God the glory for what He has brought us through. Even people who aren't 'church-going' acknowledge God's work in our lives. I pray that we will continue to have opportunities to give Him the recognition He deserves.

As we look to the near future, I will be spending most of my time just adjusting and adapting to 'regular' life, and going to physio appointments. Ben is back to work as usual on Monday, having taken Thursday and Friday off to spend with me. Aaron is back at work as well, and still doing physio. Ben finally has a requisition from the doctor to do physio, too. We plan to go to Ben's family reunion in Taber, Alberta, for the long weekend in August, and then travel through Edmonton and see some of the doctors and nurses who took care of us in the beginning, and also check in with some more very good friends!

I'll still take time to write here in the blog now and then, so do keep checking back. Our journey is far from over, and the lessons that we have learned now need to be put into practice. My prayer is that we will never forget where we have been, and what God has taught us. Each day is a new challenge, and an opportunity to give God the glory and rightful place in our lives that He deserves. We thank God for each of you who have followed us and carried us in your prayers, and pray that you will also know His presence in your lives.

This is not goodbye! Please stay in touch!!
Judy

Last post from GFS!

2009-06-29T05:02:00.001-07:00

It's just about that time to pack up the laptop and the rest of my things, so I'll post once more quick before I do...although I'm still not saying exactly when I will be leaving!! I love surprises so much!

What a fantastic weekend I had - first, a relaxing Friday night with my mom, then a wonderful Saturday afternoon with a sister-in-law at the beach in White Rock; then on Sunday mom and I had brunch with my nephew and his wife; after which mom took me back to GFS, and then into Kitsilano, where I met up with a "sister" (theatre friend!) from PG! We enjoyed a sushi supper, then an amazing performance of "The Comedy of Errors" at Bard on the Beach. If you live in Vancouver, or plan to visit, and enjoy Shakespeare, or even if you don't, this is truly worth taking in!! It was so well done, and so funny!

But the weekend ended, and I'm back here for a little while longer...and can't sleep! So my thoughts turn to all the things that I've experienced over the last 5 months, and how so much has changed. I know I'm not the same person as I was before, and I pray that God will continue to change and mold me into the person that He has started making me into, even though I know I have a long way to go until I'm there. Even with all the miracles I've experienced personally and the closeness of His presence in my life, I still find myself putting me first, not Him. Will I ever learn? What else will it take for me to finally get it? My prayer is that as I move back into "normal" life, that I won't forget the lessons that have been part of this whole process. Perhaps those of you who follow this blog regularly will help to keep me accountable!

Thank you all once again so much for all your support, encouragement, prayers and love shown to all of us. We could never have made it through without you or without our marvelous, incredible, awesome Lord!! Back in March, I claimed the verse from 1 Peter 5: 10 - "And the God of grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself make you strong, firm and steadfast." Ben printed out this verse for me in large letters, and it has been on my wall ever since. This verse has been fulfilled! He has made me strong, firm and steadfast, not only physically, but also emotionally. He's still working on me spiritually! But I close with verse 11 - "To Him be the power (and the glory!) for ever and ever."

I'll write again soon, once I'm home. For now, I'll just leave you hanging, and wondering...!!!! Till soon!

Quick note...

2009-06-22T20:34:00.000-07:00

Just wanted to let everyone know...my ticket home is booked! Now I'm just trying to decide if I should tell you all what day I'm coming home - there are a few people I'd like to surprise! I'll keep you posted...!

Also, today marks a final victory - I finally passed the swallowing assessment, which means NO MORE MINCED FOOD! I can eat whatever I want, but the speech therapist still recommends nothing dry and crumbly - I can live with that! So PTL!!!

As I look forward to going home, please pray with me that I don't lose focus on what God may still want to do in and through me. I know He can use any moment, anywhere. Let's all be ready for His purposes!

I will still keep posting, and keep you informed as to what God does next...it will always be an adventure to live for Him! But for tonight, that's all, and I'll write more soon!

I'M GOING HOME SOON!!!!!!!!

Thoughts and revelations...

2009-06-17T20:17:00.000-07:00

This morning I woke quite early, and couldn't sleep. I read some, prayed some, tried to go back to sleep, but couldn't, and then had quite the revelation. I thought you might like to know that I came to the conclusion that I'm finally ready to go home!! As strange as that may sound, it did take some time for me to be able to come to that place. Here are some of the thoughts that have gone through my head this morning – hopefully they will give you insight as to how I came to be where I am now. I have not shared much about my feelings, for various reasons, but I feel that I can now express some of what I have felt and experienced with you.

Life in the past few months has not been normal, that we all know. First we had to deal with simply surviving, then coping with the pain and limitations that we were faced with. The various changes in surroundings sometimes were good, sometimes not so good. Please understand that we know that we were overwhelmingly surrounded by so much support and care as we simply tried to make it through each day, and for that we will be forever grateful. Then came the transfer to G F Strong. That was the biggest step toward major recovery. It was a safe place to be, a place where I knew I could heal and get better. It was also where I knew God wanted me to be as I learned more and more to depend on Him for the strength for each day. I learned to walk again, among other things. But more importantly, I learned to look past myself and my own hurts to the needs of others. I knew from the beginning that we had all been spared, but during the initial stages of physical healing, it was hard to look past the pain. But God was patient, kind and loving, keeping us focused on what needed to be done at the time. Looking ahead was something that I wasn't ready to do. For the 3 short hours that I was able to be in my own home on Easter Sunday, as wonderful as it was, it made me very aware of my injuries, and my inability to cope in a normal setting. It was very difficult at the time, and I put the experience behind me, knowing that someday I would again need to face going home.

For a long time, I was afraid that I wouldn't be ready when the time came to leave here. Afraid of being surrounded by the familiar and not knowing what to do; afraid of being made more aware of what I am limited with; afraid of not being able to cope; afraid of not feeling normal ever again. Over the past week or so, each time I leave here to go to my mom's or my sister's homes, I have started to feel less and less afraid. More like I can fit in, feel "normal". More like I can cope, take on responsibility again, and concentrate on getting on with life. For so long, I have been focused on getting better – well, I am now better. I know that I still have a ways to go to get back my strength and endurance, but I can function now like I couldn't a few weeks ago. I can go out in public and not look that different from everyone else. Now I need to start the process of emotional and mental healing, and for that, I feel like I need my family and my home. I walked down the empty hallway this morning around 3, and just had an overwhelming sense that I am finished here. I want to go home. I need to go back to where we left off, and start life in the "new normal", as my sister fondly named it. I truly sense that my job here is finished. There are still things that I need to do here, appointments and exercises, physio and speech therapy, and more. But now I feel that it is time to wrap things up, do what needs to be done, and move on.

It's quite amazing the confidence that has come with this revelation. I so clearly remember thinking that it would be so scary to leave the routine that has developed over the past 4 ½ months, the safety of being taken care of, and the knowledge that I was in a place surrounded by people just like me. That has changed. God has done miracles, and I am now no longer like the people around me. Sure, I still have and will always have a spinal cord injury, but praise God, He has allowed me to be strong, firm, and steadfast, making my steps sure as it says in the verse that we claimed back in February. The impact of this knowledge is so great, and I worship and praise my Lord for restoring me! It's time to go home!

...and here we go...!

2009-06-15T21:27:00.000-07:00

Hey everyone! Thanks for your patience! It has been an incredible 2 weeks, and it might take too long to update you on everything that has happened, but I'll try to fill you in on at least some of the highlights!

It has been such a blessing to be with Ben each evening (not to mention eating out almost every night!), and to share some semi-normal time together. Yes, Ben had to work, but at least we were able to see each other every evening.On the weekend, Jason and Dani came down, always enjoyable! Shopping, crib, and more shopping...really great. We even got to see some other family and friends while Ben was here - the evening at Spanish Banks was a real highlight (thanks, John and Helen!) watching the sunset and listening to a group of about 40 people with various ethnic drums just enjoying the rhythms! Another special night was the final night of the Stanley Cup Playoffs, where we shared the evening with a roomful of people at Moxie's - thankfully we were almost all cheering for the same team! The 2 who were cheering for the "other" guys left after the 2nd period!! Sadly, Ben left for home on Saturday, but it hopefully won't be too long until I'm on my way there, too!

So now I'm back here at my "one-star all-inclusive" (as Ben nicknamed GFS!). Today was supposed to be back to normal, but I started the day with a migraine, and threw up, so that did me in for the morning. This afternoon, I went to my session for Driver Rehab, which I was looking forward to. After several different tests, the examiner was saying that I should be fine with a couple sessions with the instructor to prepare to do a road test, and I should be fine. I only had to complete a 40 question multiple choice test from a video. I did the test questions, and thought all was going great. But when the 3rd scenario came up, it was a picture of a crash site, and I started to shake - I didn't even see the question. The 4th scenario was a video of a car being rear ended, and I realized that I was getting nauseous. I stood up and left the room, and found the examiner, informing him of what happened. I was surprised at the intensity of my reaction, but realized that I am not ready to drive. I'll be coming back sometime in September for other appointments, so I'll do the sessions with the instructor then, as well as see the driver rehab psycologist. By that time, I should be able and ready to deal with whatever residual feelings and emotions that may still be hiding. So the healing process continues...!

On a more positive note, my eyesight is getting progressively better! I don't wear a patch any more, which forces my eyes to work together better. I also passed the balance test which allows me to be independant in the complex. In other words, NO MORE WHEELCHAIR, AND NO MORE WALKER! I can even do the stairs, too! So that's a real milestone! The work that I am doing since then in physio is for fine tuning and improving balance and posture. I have to admit...some of the things I'm working on, I couldn't even do before the accident! I'm also enjoying the pool time, which is a great chance to feel "normal" - until I start swimming, that is! (Sigh!) But in all areas, improvement is coming! Ben's limp is also better, and his foot doesn't swell as much. Aaron will be going back to work this week, but still has some pain in his ankles. The physiotherapy seems to have helped somewhat. He and Jason managed quite well on their own, and according to Jason, "ate like kings"! Oh well, we'll deal with the budget later!!

Many have asked about how things were going with my roommate, Claudia. She is coping better, and I have really been blessed to be able to pray with her through several difficulties. God has placed me here for a specific reasons, and I'm confident that she is one of them. It has been such a priviledge to be here for her, and to help her when she's experiencing some of the same difficulties that I've been carried through. God is so good, and I can now say what I have thought that I would be able one day to say - that I am thankful for the accident and for where it has brought me in my life. We have learned so much, and have grown in ways that we had not thought possible. We know the journey isn't finished yet, and can hardly wait to see what else God has in store for us, and the lessons that will yet come for us to learn. For sure, we have experienced that in our weakness, He is strong. We give God the glory for the grace that He has shown us, and for the mercy to have a second chance at living life the way He wants us to. We're far from perfect, and have a long way to go, but we're looking forward to the journey!

By the way, anytime you'd like to come visit, I'm more than up to having visitors in the evening, as I still have a few weeks left. I should find out tomorrow for sure when they are going to let me go home, but there's always the possibility that I may have to stay longer for extra physio. I'll keep you posted!

So now it's time to get some extra sleep, and I'll try to be more faithful with posts! Keep praying for us to learn and listen, and be ready when God wants to use us, and we'll pray the same for you!!

With gratefulness for many blessings,

Judy

...and again...

2009-06-14T23:07:00.000-07:00

Sorry, folks! Today I ended up having too much fun with my sister and mom...and now I have to pack to go back to (as Ben has fondly named GFS) my one-star all-inclusive! There's just too much to do when I'm here in Abbotsford - I'm going to miss that when I go home! My family has drawn so close together during the past 4 months, and it's a wonderful thing. But home is still where I would rather be.

Until then, I still have to work at getting as better as I can get! So it's back in to Vancouver tomorrow. I have nothing planned for the evening Monday, so I'll make sure to take time to let you all in on the past two weeks...promise! Have a great Monday!

Judy

Oh My!

2009-06-13T20:17:00.000-07:00

How time flies when one is having fun...and I've had so much fun the past 2 weeks! It has been so good to see Ben everyday, to go for walks, talk about everyday stuff (not just the accident and our recovery!), to spend time doing nothing, and to eat out every night!!! So I apologize for not having posted for so long! But to defend myself somewhat...I did try 3 times this past week to get online to post, and I couldn't get an internet connection. Seems my computer isn't always able to pick up a signal. I tried!! So now I'm at my mom's for the weekend, and I promise that I will spend time tomorrow on a good long post. For tonight this will have to suffice - I'm tired!! (Too much done in too little time, with too many late nights!) So until then, have a great Sunday, and I'll 'talk' to you all tomorrow.

Judy

God is so good!

2009-06-05T07:26:00.000-07:00

God is so good! Can we ever say it often enough or give Him praise enough to express this to it's fullest? Some days I wake up with such gratefulness in my heart, and today it one of those days. I guess it sounds like I'm trying to be impressive, or super-spiritual, but those of you who know me well know that that's not me! I want only to be real, so I'll admit that there are days that I really don't seem to care as much about being thankful. I try to report about all the good things that God is doing in our lives, but I admit there are still days that I don't think you want to know about. It's hard being away from home and my family for so long, and sometimes the treatment and recuperation process is tough and painful. But I pray that my focus won't get lost, and so I choose to be thankful for every little thing that I can find. And when I choose to look, that's when I see my Lord at work in my life, for which I will always be thankful!

It's been a special week with Ben being able to be here in the evenings, and he'll be here all next week, too! We've had some awesome times together, and with the fantastic weather we've had, it's been even better! On Wednesday night we were able to go to the Jericho Sailing Club for dinner (fish and chips! So much better than minced meatballs!) and last night we walked (hobbled, limped!) from his hotel down to English Bay for gelato! It was worth the walk! And today we get to share with good friends from PG! Jason and his girlfriend are coming for the weekend, too, so all in all, I'm in high spirits this morning, as you may be able to tell!

In the meantime, therapy continues, and although the advances are no longer huge, I still am progressing. My balance is improving, my vision is as well, and there are more appointments with more specialists to take care of more of the injuries. Little by little, bit by bit, as my physiotherapist likes to say! I am now also able to be in the pool (my peg tube is out and healed over - it looks like a second belly button now!) and this is helping the range of motion in my shoulders to improve. The doctor injected cortisteroids into my shoulders to allow them to move better, and it seems to be helping some. Ben's leg still swells up when he is on his feet too much, but the pain is decreasing, and that is a good thing. Aaron has been taken off work for 2 weeks, but was sent to physiotherapy finally! His back and legs are still bothering him quite a bit, so we hope and pray that the exercises will strengthen and help him.

And so another day begins. I trust you will find joy today in whatever you do, and that you will also find reason to choose to be thankful!

Judy

Catch up time!

2009-06-02T13:34:00.000-07:00

As always, we had a wonderful weekend! Ben arrived on Friday just before lunch, and after taking his things to the Vancouver office, Mom, Ben and I headed out for my cousin's daughter's wedding, just south of Seattle. On Friday evening we were able to connect with a couple that we met on our cruise 1 1/2 years ago - great to see them again over a phenomenal dinner (yes, I ate in a restaurant!). The wedding on Saturday was just lovely - God-honoring, elegant and yet informal at the same time. I admit, by the end of the day I was pooped, but I'm so glad we went! We also were part of the worship service the families of the bride and groom held on Sunday in the hotel where we stayed. What an amazing time of fellowship, sharing and singing. It's such a blessing to know that the extended families of the couple can worship together in such harmony, just a small foretaste of what will be in glory!!

And then it was back to rehab - another team/family meeting on Monday, and more good news. They will be setting me up to self-medicate (in other words, I won't be given meds by the nurses, rather the pharmacy will give me the meds directly, and then I am responsible to administer them at the appropriate time - more like it will be at home). They will also be weaning me off of the neuropathic pain meds, and decreasing the dosages for the mood-stabilizing ones as well. Hopefully that will all work well, and I won't change into a crazed idiot! (Read - PMS, Perimenopause, Mood swings, etc!) The date for my discharge is still July 2, with the possibility of staying until the 14th if they feel they need the extra time for further improvement. I'm okay with 2 more weeks - what's another couple weeks after 5 months!! In the meantime, physio and occupational therapy are doing all they can to help me learn what I will need to know in order to function somewhat normally once I get home. I made an omelette the other day - spinach, feta cheese and sundried tomatoes (thanks for the idea, Jason!), and it turned out great!! Today, I tried playing badminton with my physiotherapist - just a little tough with the double vision! Which, by the way, seems to be getting better! I haven't been wearing the patch over my eye as often, and the muscles seem to be getting back to normal - at least things don't look as far apart as they used to, for which I am very thankful! We also had an appointment with and ENT last Thursday, and got to see my vocal chords. They are in fine shape, no scarring or nodules, so I can start working on rebuilding my range and decreasing the nasality in my voice. My speech therapist has requested that I have an appointment with a voice specialist, which would be really cool! It might take awhile to get in to see her, as there is only one in BC, but being so close by, they have put me on a cancellation list for the chance to get in sooner. I still maintain that if I don't get my voice back to the way it was, I have lost very little. But if there is a chance to improve what I can, I am glad to be able to do whatever is needed! As always, I praise God for each little victory, and know that He is still in control!

Ben is down here in Vancouver working for the next 2 weeks, so I'm looking forward to spending at least a few evenings with him. His foot still swells quite easily, and he needs to keep it up as much as possible. Aaron has been taken off work completely for the next 2 weeks, and has been sent to do physio every day, for which I am very glad! I've said all along that he needed to go, and finally the doctor thinks so too! So we are all still slowly recuperating and progressing along, and giving thanks for each new day and the strength to get through it!

You are all such a blessing to us, and to know that so many are still upholding us in prayer is daily a humbling experience. To know that we are right where God wants us to be keeps us at His feet in gratitude, and I never want to forget how gracious and merciful He is, has been, and will be. May you also experience His greatness in some new way today as you keep your faces turned to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, as it is through Him alone that we can live this life with courage and face this fight with success!

Judy

Correction

2009-05-26T19:39:00.000-07:00

Sorry everyone! It has been brought to my attention that I gave some incorrect information in my last post. I said that I have been allowed to walk independently, and I should have said that I have been allowed to walk independently with my walker. So yes, the wheelchair is gone, and I no longer need to have someone walking right beside me, but I still need the walker for stability. But I'm working on it! my balance is getting so much better, but it's still not good enough to be independent totally.

Again, I apologize for misleading anyone!

Judy

More Victories!

2009-05-26T11:50:00.000-07:00

Hey, Happy Tuesday, everyone! I am very pleased to report that I just returned from this morning's physio session, and my physiotherapist told me that I am no longer required to use my wheelchair, and that I may walk unassisted in the facility here!!! I have been waiting for that for so long, and am so excited! This is a huge victory, and a major step in my rehab! I still have the power wheelchair if I want it for longer outings, or if I'm going outside unassisted. So YAY! She was waiting for me at the elevator with pom-poms in hand, which mom and I had made for her over the weekend - she always said that she would be my biggest cheerleader when I was finally ready to go independent - her way of saying to wait and be patient!

Yesterday was also a special day - my feeding tube was removed! It didn't even hurt much - just pulled a bit, and now I have a hole in my stomach! It will close soon, and then I'll be able to get into the pool for water therapy! More YAY! PTL for answers to prayer, and advances in my recovery!

Last post, I mentioned my new roommate, Claudia. I found out yesterday (it was really a great day!) that she was raised in a Christian home, and that her parents are strong believers! Both her dad and her step-mom took time to thank me and the Lord for putting Claudia in this room! She is really still struggling to accept what has happened. Usually they don't place people in this facility until they are emotionally ready to deal with the pressures of rehab. But she's here, and so I pray that I will be able to help her learn to cope. She knows that I have been where she is, and has expressed her appreciation for that. I am able to help in ways that others cannot. So again, I am so grateful to God for letting me be here. I am filled with such joy to know that I am right where He wants me to be! To be in the center of His will makes it so much easier to deal with the day to day requirements of therapy, and the occasional sleepless night due to the shoulder pain that is still there. It all pales in light of the privilege to serve my Lord!

Btw, the weekend with my mom was super again, but I had to go see the dietitian to get back on track with losing more weight! My family feeds me so well! We had such a fantastic Saturday - manicure and pedicure in the morning (strictly therapeutic, mind you!), and then a wonderful lunch with my sister (quiche and a nice light white wine!), and finally the afternoon in the sun on her deck, helping make hanging baskets for her railing (I helped by staying out of the way - I kill plants!). It's so good to be with my family, and sometimes hard to come back here Monday mornings, but it's all worth it in the end!

Keep praying for God to be glorified in all our lives, that I will be sensitive to the urgings of the Holy Spirit in my life, and that I will be a testimony to Claudia and her partner, Craig. They are really a special couple, and I know that God is already working in their hearts! I can hardly wait to see what He's going to do next!

With joy,
Judy

Aaron here

2009-05-22T22:46:00.000-07:00

Hey, I was informed that people are still interested in how I'm doing, so here is an update on the status of my recovery. So far, I'm back to work, however I'm only able to do 4 hours at a time as walking and standing that much makes me very sore, so far, no noticeable improvement over 2 weeks. In general though, I can lift bigger and better things now, up to 10 kg! (5kg from floor to waste); I still cant run, or jump, or do anything abrupt with my legs like kicking or dropping as it makes my knees hurt quite badly, kneeling and bending over are alright, I just have to go slow, and I prefer to avoid it if i can.

I have a roommate!

2009-05-22T09:53:00.000-07:00

Good morning, everyone! It finally happened - yesterday morning a stretcher was wheeled into my room, and Claudia moved in. She is a lovely woman with injuries similar to mine, but her accident (a biking accident) was only 16 days ago. She is finding the limitations difficult to cope with, as she was a nurse and an avid outdoor enthusiast and very fit! Claudia has movement and feeling in her legs, but her arms and hands are still numb and tingly. She has younger children (13 and 16) whom she is finding it very difficult to be away from. But she has a good support system (her mom and stepmom are also nurses!), and I really hope to make her feel comfortable and more hopeful for the future. It was so cool last night - I actually listened and obeyed the prompting of the Lord, and prayed out loud for her before we went to sleep last night. That was a victory for me, because that is something that I would not have done before! I am really looking forward to being a light and testimony to her, and so far, we seem to get along well, so pray with me that she will be receptive to the hope that only Jesus can give!

I'll be going home to my mom's for the weekend again, and so I will report in again after then...OH MY! The doctor just came in and told me that on Monday morning I will be getting the feeding tube TAKEN OUT! YAY!!! One more victory! What a blessing for the day! PTL!!!

I pray for a good day and weekend for all of you, and may you feel as blessed as I do each day!

Judy

Another great weekend!

2009-05-20T18:55:00.000-07:00

Greetings again, friends and followers of the Wiebe saga!
I
had a wonderful weekend at my mom's and my sister's places, with Ben and Chris coming down to celebrate Ben's birthday. Another achievement for me: climbing the stairs to the upstairs room in my sister's house! I made sure there was someone right behind me, but the climb was no problem! I had practiced on a small flight of 4 stairs in the gym here, but wasn't sure if I could manage a whole flight. So Ben didn't know that I would be there when they arrived at 2 in the morning - the look on his face was priceless! Surprises are always fun! My sister and I also did some shopping, which was a lot of fun, and we also enjoyed a salmon dinner with my whole family on Saturday night. Most special was the time of prayer that we shared together, as we have learned to appreciate each other and support each others needs in this way. All of us have our own burdens, and it was so cool to lift each other up and be renewed as we came before our Lord as a family. Ben and Chris returned safely home on Sunday, and I slept most of Monday away at my mom's!

Back at GFS, life goes on, and the focus continues to strengthen limbs and improve balance. Each day is a challenge, but exciting. I am especially excited about the work that is happening with my speech therapist. I will be going to see the ENT (ear, nose and throat) specialist next week, and then there might be a possibility to meet with a voice specialist! In the past, I have said (and still mean it!) that if my voice is the only thing that I lose in this whole process, then I have lost very little. But if there is possibility to restore at least some of my normal vocal quality, even for my speaking voice, then I am very interested in doing what I can to pursue that. I had my speech therapist call my voicemail on my cell just to hear what my voice used to sound like - she was floored at the difference! Right now my voice is very nasal and flat sounding, so I would really like to get it somewhat more pleasing to the ear.

Ben is doing fairly well, and is working toward spending the first two weeks of June here in Vancouver, doing a couple of files in the area. We are also planning on going to my cousin's daughter's wedding in the Seattle area the last weekend in May, another exciting prospect and goal to work toward. Aaron is back to work for a few hours a week, and is starting to look forward to college in the fall, but I'll let him post more about that if he wants to!

A prayer request above and beyond the ones that we continue to have - that I can be a testimony to my neighbour here, Doreen. She is leaving here in 2 weeks, and is fearful of going home alone. At 78, she is frail and overly cautious, and isn't sure how she will manage on her own. She has a belief in God, but does not have a personal relationship with Him. Pray that I will be able to show her Jesus, who can be her comfort and give her confidence as she learns to rest in His presence.

Just a note on the side - I met Rick Hanson just outside my door this afternoon! He was very personable, and not at all pretentious, unlike some celebrities that I have met! Here, we are all the same as we deal with our disabilities together. That was a cool highlight for the day!

Judy

Sorry!

2009-05-15T17:10:00.000-07:00

Wow, time has passed quickly this week! I am so sorry for not having posted sooner. And this will have to be a quick one - I'm on my way out of here shortly to spend the weekend at my mom's again. And even better, Ben and Chris are coming down! So I know I'm going to have another great weekend!

Things are continuing to progress well, and God continues to pour strength into my muscles and veins every day. I am amazed at His goodness and mercy each new day, and am able to work hard to do what the physiotherapist demands of me. She is trying to get me up on my hands and knees - sounds easy, but when you have limited movement and little strength in your arms, it's pretty difficult! Balance exercises are also a big part of my time, and it is slowly improving. Oh, and minced food is way better than puréed!

I'll try to drop a note over the weekend, but I won't promise anything! I trust you will all have a safe and blessed long weekend as well.

Judy

What a great weekend!

2009-05-11T20:27:00.000-07:00

What a fantastic opportunity I had this weekend to spend the time at my mother's place! Aaron (whose 19th birthday was on Saturday), Jason and his girlfriend (I love being able to say that!) Dani made it down for Mother's Day, a very special treat! The whole weekend was wonderful, including being able to attend church at Central Heights (my mom's church) and share God's blessings and praise Him as they gave me an opportunity to share in her Sunday School class. And in the worship service, it felt like the pastor was preaching from the last 3 months of my life as he taught from Psalm 40, telling how God brings us out of the pits of despair and sets our feet firmly on solid ground. We've experienced some deep pits, but God has really given us stability and security in His love and grace as He's carried us through. All glory is His!

Today it was back to GFS, and back to the routine. Today was also the swallowing test under X-ray, which went okay - I have been upgraded to minced, which is a very good thing, but I still had some trouble with some textures, not being able to swallow properly. There is still some food particles that are getting into my esophagus, which of course is not good, so I passed, but only partially. It's still a praise item, and I am thankful for the small step forward. The test will be repeated in about a month, and so solid food will have to wait for awhile longer.

Ben and Aaron continue in their healing process as well, although Ben has had some more swelling in his foot. Pray that he will be patient and allow his foot the time to heal that it needs. He is planning on being able to work on 2 files down here the first 2 weeks of June, and I am so looking forward to that! Aaron still suffers from back pain and fatigue, too, but is back to work for 4 hour shifts a few days per week. With him turning 19 this weekend, it seems he is suddenly all grown up! It was certainly a pleasure to share this weekend with him!

As usual, I want to thank all of you who faithfully follow this site, and uphold us as we continue on this journey. I love reading your comments and thank you all for your support, in whatever form it is given. God is good...all the time!
Judy

Just a quick note...

2009-05-07T20:30:00.001-07:00

A very thoughtful and generous cousin of mine recently visited me and left me 10 gifts that I could open when I achieved goals that I had to set. So far I have been able to open 4 of the gifts - the first one for walking around the gym (without too much assistance!) more than 4 times, the second for completing a successful car transfer (which means that I may ride in a car, not just the wheelchair taxi!), the third for being able to take off my TED's (disgustingly tight white tights that are used to prevent blood clots by compression), and the most recent for being able to not wear my collar anymore!!! The x-ray done on Tuesday showed that the surgery site has healed well, so I am no longer required to wear the uncomfortable thing! YEAH! And this weekend I get to go to my Mom's place, which I am very excited about.

I truly have so much to be thankful for, and every day new achievements are being made, if not physically, then sometimes mentally, emotionally or spiritually - and I know that I have so much more learning to do! So thank you for your continued prayers and praise to our great God as our family learns what we need to learn during this time. We thank God for all of you daily!

In His arms of love,
Judy

Great Weekend!

2009-05-05T21:24:00.001-07:00

It was so good to be back together with my hubby again, just hanging out, walking (well, he sort of walks with his crutches, and I power along in my wheelchair!), talking, and just sharing joy in being with each other! It went far too fast, but it was good all the same! Ben plans on coming down again for the last week of May and the first week of June. It can't come too soon!

As for an update as to how things are coming along for me...as I've said before, it's all good! I continue to gain strength in my legs, and mobility in my arms. It has been determined that there is damage to the tendons in both shoulders, and a tear in one of them in the right arm. They are considering treatment with shots to freeze the tendon, and if that goes well, possibly cortisone shots. In the meantime, I continue to work on strengthening and stretching as much as I can.

We had our first team/family meeting on Monday morning. Present were the doctor, a nurse, my physiotherapist, my speech pathologist, a rep from ICBC, the liaison for ICBC, my social worker, my occupational therapist, and then my family - Ben, my mom, my sister and my sister-in-law! It was quite the roomful! We also had our lawyer and his team on conference call! It went very well, and as each member of the GFS team made a report as to my progress, several of them mentioned my faith as something that has helped me have a good attitude and make the progress that I have! PRAISE GOD that it is coming through me and they know it! That meant so much to me to know that God is being recognized in my life by people who may not even acknowledge His existence! Keep praying that my witness will be strong and focused on giving Him all the glory for what He has done and will do in my life!

For your information, my tentative discharge date is July 2nd, but we hope that it will be bumped up to sometime in mid-June. It all depends on how quickly I progress, and how far they think they can take me.

Upcoming appointments include the neuro-ophtamologist this Friday, another swallowing assessment done with xray on Monday, a follow-up appointment with the spine doctor to go over the results of today's xray (which will determine when I lose the collar!), and an appointment with an ENT (ear, nose and throat specialist) to determine if there is any permanent damage to my vocal chords. I am especially excited about that one! He will be using a camera to go into my vocal chords (which I'm sure won't be fun!) and seeing how they are doing - I've actually always wanted to do that! I also have added speech therapy to my list of classes, and today she told me that she has some exercises for me to do (once we have clearance that my vocal chords are okay) that should help with the nasality of my voice. I've frequently said that if all I lose through this accident is my singing ability, I have lost very little. But now with this new hope of regaining at least my speaking voice and perhaps some vocal tone and range, I am very excited! She also determined that my soft palate only lifts on one side, also adding to the change in my tone, which again she has exercises for! So I am very pleased to add this all to my schedule! Unfortunately, my music therapist is taking the rest of May off, so I won't be able to work with her for now. But with my keyboard in my room, I'll keep practising until she gets back!

Thank you as ever for all your prayers for our family. They are a treasure and a solace for all of us. God is working in us and through us, and it is such a privilege!

Because He Lives!
Judy

The gift...

2009-04-30T20:40:00.000-07:00

I've promised for 2 days now to tell you about the special gift that my sister made for me, and it's period break in the game, so now seems like a good time!

You all know that in the accident I suffered an incomplete fracture between the vertebra called C1 and C2, the top of the spinal column, which hold the skull on the neck. My memory of the first few weeks is very muddled due to pain, medication and the concussion. I assumed, and had told the doctors, that the surgery to fuse them together was done within days of the accident. It wasn't until the night my brother and sister-in-law were here shortly after my arrival at GF Strong that they told me what really happened. It wasn't until 7days after the accident, after doing an MRI to determine why my arms and legs weren't moving, that they found the fracture. My brother and his wife were there the next day, immediately after the surgery. They talked to the doctor who did the surgery and were told that all that held my head onto my neck was 1 mm of tissue, and that I was very "lucky" to be alive. To top this off, keep in mind that the nurses had stopped log-rolling my head when I was being turned (in other words, holding my head and neck together when turning my body). They were just turning my body, and my head was being held by God's hands alone!!! This news really made me stop and again be so grateful to be alive! It also made me realize how little I remember from those first 2 - 3 weeks. So for those of you who visited me during my time in ICU, thank you for your patience with me as I sort out my memories from my fantasies!

Now back to my sister - (Ellie has given me permission to share this story) - she was working in her craft room one night, re-stringing a bracelet that had broken (thrifty girl!). The cord wasn't quite the right size, so she looked in her supplies to see what other sizes she had in there. She picked up a spool of clear elastic cord, and looked to see what size it was. Upon seeing the diameter of 1 mm marked on the spool, her mind and heart immediately thought of the 1 mm of stretchy, clear ligament that held my head for those 7 days. She told me that she froze on the spot, and spent the next 30 minutes or so just feeling that slender cord, tears streaming down her face, praising God for His mercy and goodness, and for sparing my life. Then she had an idea - to make me (and my family) bracelets to remind us of that gift from God. She put on that cord one single, imperfect pearl, also as a reminder that God isn't finished with me yet! She came out on Monday just to bring it out to me, and to share what it meant to her. I wear that cord with joy, and it has already allowed me the opportunity to share my story and God's part in it with several people! I love that gift, and my sister for creating it, and thank God for giving her that moment. Go find a ruler and look how big 1 mm is - you might be surprised! I know I was!

Just to let you all know, I am very excited that Ben will be arriving here for the weekend tomorrow morning! He's coming down for our first team/family planning meeting (which is on Monday at 11), and for some time with me! So don't bother checking back here for a few days...I won't be posting till Monday night at the earliest! And if you live in the Vancouver area and have been wanting to see us, just give a quick call to make sure we're in (you can call GF Strong direct, and they'll give me a message to call you). He'll be here until Monday afternoon.

Oh, one other thing quickly - I did stairs today!

Praising God daily, love, Judy

Judy Wiebe
Take Note Vocal Studio

Wednesday

2009-04-29T19:59:00.001-07:00

Well, folks, I promise tonight's entry won't be as long as the last one! Sorry, I didn't realize that I was being that prolific. Anyway, I was almost finished this post (I started this 1//2 hour ago!) and accidentally deleted it...darn shaky fingers! So I'll try again, and hopefully I'll remember what I just wrote!

I know I wanted to let you know how things went today with the swallowing assessment. Well, it didn't go as well as hoped/prayed for, but the therapist was short on time, and only brought a container of yogurt and some chicken salad. The yogurt was no problem, but the chicken salad was a little dry, therefore harder to swallow. She didn't fail me as such, but suggested that we reschedule for Monday when she has more time and we'll try more varied textures to see what works and what doesn't. So I'll keep you posted! Until then, puréed it is!

Some of you have also been asking where I am at with my injuries. So I will give you the scoop - starting at the top...! My head is still very securely on my neck, and I have very little pain any more, and do not need the narcotics to relieve it! Praise the Lord! I occasionally have neck muscle pain when I don't wear my collar, so until the doctors say otherwise, I am gladly keeping it on! My eyes are still crossed, and I have an appointment with the neuro-ophtamologist (sp?) on May 6. I was encouraged at dinner tonight, though (braised beef tips and peas - puréed, of course - quite yummy!) when one of the other ladies here told me that after her accident she was also cross-eyed, and that after 4 months it fixed itself! It's only been 3 months so far, so I guess we'll wait and see! (Pun intended!) Okay, moving down, the shoulders are both still quite sore, and my arms/hands quite weak, but we're working on exercises to stretch and strengthen them as well as all the other tight muscles in my body. I've had an ultrasound done to see if there is any permanent damage, and we are awaiting the results from that. The ribs have healed well, and although I can't spread them as far as I could before for that great breath support I once had, the fact that I once could do that has helped immensely in their re-training and my ability to take semi-deep breaths now. God knew that even my breathing exercises would be useful here! There is still bruising and a deep scar from the seat belt, but don't worry - you'll never see it! My legs are quite strong, and have good range of motion. They gave me a wheelchair that I "walk" with my feet, giving my quads a good workout! The physiotherapist is working hard to help me regain my balance, and we walk a bit further everyday. Each time with less assistance, too! The only other problem that I will mention is the nerve damage, which comes in various forms. The one thing that I struggle with the most is the burning sensation I often feel on my back, arms and sometimes my chest. I guess that is what a hot flash feels like, but mine doesn't go away! It's worst at night when I have nothing to distract me, but they are trying me on another medication, non-narcotic, that is supposed to help. So far, it's not doing much, but I'll keep trying. I am now completely off the Hydromorphone (Dilotid -sp?) which I am very grateful for! I have had some withdrawal symptoms, but they are going away. PTL! The other part of the nerve damage is numbness in my left breast, and no temperature sensation in my legs. My voice has also changed, for those of you who have not been able to see/hear me in person, and the doctor said it is also due to nerve damage. My soft palate no longer is able to lift, therefore I sound nasal and husky, and have a singing range of about 1/2 an octave! But here again, God has supplied me with the tools to re-teach my vocal chords and soft palate what to do! I may not ever sing my ARCT exam, but I'm okay with that. I've always said that if my ability to sing is the only thing I lose through this whole experience, then I have lost little! I'll sing again, when I fall at His feet in Glory!!

So that takes care of me, but this whole story is about more than me! Ben & Aaron had their follow-up appointment with the specialist yesterday. Ben was told that he didn't have to wear his cast or use his crutches anymore, unless he was doing a lot of walking. (We all know he was starting to do this anyway!!). But at least he can now officially be cast free! There should be no further surgery required, which is a great praise item! Aaron's back is also well healed, and he no longer needs to wear his clamshell. (They just turned out the lights - guess I better finish up!). Praise God for his healing hand, and for the way He has taken care of all their needs at home, too!

Your thoughts, prayers, comments, cards, letters, and the rest are so appreciated. God bless each of you for your time, care and concern. We know we can never repay what we've been given. We pray that He will be your blessing, and your strength to deal with whatever comes your way. I guess I'll have to tell you the story of my sister's gift tomorrow...just to keep you coming back!

With praise to our powerful, loving Father,

Judy

It's my turn finally!

2009-04-28T20:28:00.001-07:00

Greetings to everyone who faithfully follows this blogspot! Yes, this is Judy typing! I am finally able to access a computer and do this myself. Although I am not doing too good so far...I have just spent the past 20 minutes composing this message, only to hit something wrong, and deleted the whole message! So I will try to remember what I just wrote, and do this again!

I know that I wanted to try to express my gratefulness to all of you who have prayed or cared for our family in some way. There will never be words to describe how thankful and humbled we all are for the overwhelming support and interest in our lives. God has truly upheld and carried us through you, and we know that it is because of you and your prayers that we make it through each day.

It has only been since Friday that I have had access to a computer. It took awhile, but I finally read through the entire blog, including all the comments. It was very strange to read about the things that I have lived through the past 3 months, and also enlightening - my memory of some of those days and weeks is foggy to say the least! But again, I was so overwhelmed by not only the number of people who are following this, but by the outpouring of love and support through your comments. I know this is not enough, but thank you, Thank You, THANK YOU!! God will reward you for you faithfulness in prayer - we can never repay or thank you enough!

So now I thought I would tell you about what my days look like here at GF Strong Rehab Centre. Believe it or not, I am usually awake by 6, but do not usually get up then! I am not supposed to get out of bed on my own, so I wait until the nurses bring me my breakfast (in bed!) which is usually around 7:45 or 8. I have been given clearance to have a shower on my own, and I only need assistance from the nurses for getting in and out, and with washing my hair. My arms are still quite weak, and my range of motion quite limited, but we are working on increasing that. I am also able to dress most of myself, albeit is a slow process! Then there are the classes - an hour of physiotherapy and usually an hour of occupational therapy, which takes on various forms. One day they came to my room to teach me to dress myself. Another day the group went to the park and played games (I sat that one out - too tired!). Tomorrow I will be introduced to the kitchen, and will make my own lunch on Thursday! They do whatever you need to become more independent. I will share a funny story with you about this. In a hands class, the instructor handed me a roll of plastic wrap (the really sticky kind) and a pencil, and told me to wrap it up. My sister, Ellie, was with me that day, and as I wrapped it up really tight twisting the ends shut really well, I smugly said that they would never get it out! Then as I handed it to the instructor, she handed it back to me and told me to unwrap it! My sister said it served me right!

Lunch is served at 11:30 in a common room, or in your room if you choose. I like to go to the common room, and meet the other people on this floor. There are 4 floors to the center, each for a different disability. The second floor is only for spinal cord injury. Not everyone is able to be at the table to feed themselves - many need to be fed. I have met some wonderful new friends, and enjoy the time of getting to know them. As for the food, I am still on puréed food for now but they make it taste pretty good most of the time. I found out tonight that I am NOT a fan of puréed spinach or puréed salmon. Ugh. I will be tested tomorrow again for being able to advance to minced food, so if you are reading this before Wednesday at lunch, pray for my swallowing ability to be improved! I am really starting to crave real food! If I do not pass the swallowing test (I will let you know) then please pray that I will be content to continue eating mush, and that my hunger for other foods would go away!

In the afternoon there are various other activities, and sometimes other classes. Monday and Friday afternoon I have music therapy, where I am re-learning my piano skills. I am so thankful for this opportunity, and am able to practice on my own keyboard in my room - Jason brought it down for me last weekend! Typing is also another good form of therapy, although I must admit that my fingers and arms are getting a little tired! I might have to continue tomorrow...but I will finish the day at least! Dinner is served early - 4:30 - so that leaves quite a bit of free time in the evening. There are activities on some nights (movies, swimming, Wii games, etc) but I have not gone to any as yet. Usually by the time dinner is over, I am done! I relax, read or watch TV, or sometimes someone comes to visit. Speaking of which, I am so thankful for my mom and sister who have been able to be here almost every day since I have come! Soon my sister will have to go back to work, but I have so enjoyed her company here and we have grown so much closer, now that we have shared accidents together! For those of you who do not know, and I do not think it was on the blog, my sister was in a car accident only 3 days before we were, and suffered severe concussion resulting in vertigo that was very debilitating. But between her own therapy sessions, she still has found the time to be with me here! And my mom...what can I say...she has been there for me throughout, and is here most days. For her it brings back memories, as my father was here in 1984 after his stroke. He regained many abilities the doctors told him he would not be able to do, and so will I!

Anyway, that should be more than enough for now. Tomorrow I would like to tell you all the story of a special gift that my sister gave me...you will have to check back for that one, my fingers are giving out (and the spell check is not working, neither is the apostrophe key!). Please let me know if there is anything in particular that you are wanting to know, and I will try to answer your questions.

So for now, thank you all again, and keep praying! God is SO GOOD, ALL THE TIME! I have His peace and contentment to be here for this time, and although I miss my family and friends, He gives strength for each day and joy to carry on. What more can I ask for but that I can be a testimony for Him, a light and an example of His love in this place, and that He receive ALL the glory for what He is doing in my life. I thank you once again for keeping us all in your thoughts and prayers.

Till soon, Judy

Sunday

2009-04-26T21:28:00.001-07:00

Things are progressing. Judy took her first steps Friday. She is continuing to build strength and coordination. She is really enjoying the visitors she is getting.

For the most part, Judy's pain in under control, and not requiring the dilaudid (hydromorphone) that she had been on since the first few days after the accident. She is having some trouble sleeping and has been using sleeping pills to assist in getting the proper rest.

I will be going down Friday to be with her till Monday. We are both really looking forward to that.

Aaron and I have a Dr appointment on Tuesday. This is another step toward living a more normal life. Aaron is hoping that he can be mobile without his clamshell, and to be able to go back to work soon. I am hoping to get off my crutches soon, and to be able to work normal hours.

Thanks again for all your prayers and support in so many different ways.

Ben

Monday

2009-04-20T22:25:00.001-07:00

For those wishing to visit Judy, she is listed under Marilyn (her first name). She also asked that no more flowers be brought at this time, and she has enough stuffed animals to keep the flowers company. Thanks so much for the extremely generous show of support from so many of you.

There were two exciting developments for Judy today. First, from a sitting position in her wheelchair she was able to stand up with no assistance and no walker!! For her walking exercises she still uses the parallel bars. That is going very well. Second, she was in the music therapy room and sat down at the piano, and started playing. Although the music is not as flowing as it was, there was still music in her fingers! Jason is going down to see her this weekend and Judy requested her electronic keyboard. She wants to practice and exercise her fingers...AMAZING!

For Judy being at GF Strong is an excellent experience. Judy is extremely positive and grateful for everything she is still able to think, feel, and do. She is expecially grateful when she sees other patents at the facillity who are often much younger and have very severe handicaps. She is one of the ones with the most mobililty, and considering what she has gone through, that is amazing. God has protected her and is blessing all of us so richly.

Ben

Saturday

2009-04-18T19:55:00.001-07:00

So, I just got off the phone with Judy and she had a wonderful day today. She had several visitors and really enjoyed that.

Judy continues to improve. She is able to get from a flat bed to sitting up, and then to standing up with a walker. She is also able to sit in her wheelchair all day.

Chris arrived around 11:00 today and spent the day with her. They explored the facilities, and then went shopping to a strip mall across the street from GF Strong.

Judy is enjoying eating real food, although still pureed. The food provided is really good, even though the pureed egg salad sandwich she had was not quite the same.

Judy is really grateful for those who are visiting her. She appreciates visitors evenings starting around 6 and weekends. Days are filled with activities, but evenings can be lonely.

On Monday she is seeing a neuroophthalmologist to have a look at her eyes. she is cross eyes and does not have full range of motion with the eyes. With her glasses (and one eye covered) she can see clearly and is able to read. Please pray for wisdom and continued healing.

Ben

GF Strong (Vancouver)

2009-04-14T22:50:00.001-07:00

Judy called me at 6:45 this morning to let me know that the ambulance would be there to take her to the airport between 7:30 and 8: am today. She will only be allowed one piece of luggage (we had packed three small ones). I quickly got up, dressed and was at her bedside in 20 minutes. I repacked everything into one larger suitcase. Judy left PGRH at 8:00 am today.

Judy has arrived safely at GF Strong. She has been extremely encouraged after meeting with a variety of staff there. One of the nurses is a good friend of her niece Jessica (who recognized Judy's name as she arrived. One of the most exciting things for Judy is that she will be enrolled in music therapy, including a keyboard to play on.

After seeing several doctors today, Judy was informed that her stay would be approximately 2 months. There will be a more thorough analysis of her condition and progress in two weeks.

At this stage Judy's pain is mostly manageable with tylenol and ibuprofen. One medical issue they will need to resolve is that Judy is having withdrawal symptoms from the pain medication.

Praise the lord for an easy transition! Please pray for continued healing, and strength. Pray also for the medical staff that they will have the wisdom needed to best guide Judy to the best possible recovery.

Ben

Easter

2009-04-13T17:04:00.001-07:00

Easter Sunday was very special for all of us! For the first time, Judy was able to get a day pass and we as a family were able to attend church. It was a very emotional time for Judy, and also for all those that have been watching and praying for us. We are Sooo THANKFUL for all of our friends that are walking with us during this time. Through you, ALL of our needs are being provided! God is blessing us in many ways as we continue on our journey to recovery.

After Church, we took Judy home and had lunch together at home. After lunch Judy had a nap (3 hours) in her own bed. She went back to the hospital at 5 pm.

Judy's strength and endurance are continuing to improve. As she is transferred to GF Strong tomorrow, please pray for strength for the trip, and that her pain continues to be minimal. She started taking her pain medications orally last week, but she is having minor reactions to something in the mix. As time at PGRH is coming to an end, please pray that they will be able to solve the challenges there.

Ben

Big News

2009-04-09T19:34:00.000-07:00

The news today consists of the following:
1. Judy is continuing progress, today she walked with a regular walker even farther than yesterday.
2. She is eating all her meals. They consist of juices and mush. The tube feed has been stopped for now. She is also taking all medication orally.
3. She was notified that GF Strong has a bed available for her on Tuesday, April 14. This is much quicker that we expected. She will be flown down on a medavac flight.
4. Her pain continues to decrease. Her dose is currently about 1/4 of what it was before. I believe soon we will she that she can get by on tylenol.
5. There is no significant change with her eyesight.

When friends of ours were preparing to visit Judy with their 2 1/2 year old, they informed their daughter that Judy had an eye patch (like a pirate). The question in response was "does she have a parrot"?

Please continue to pray for wisdom for Judy, myself, and the boys as healing takes place and decisions are made.

Ben

The Boys

2009-04-06T22:44:00.000-07:00

How are the boys handling the current family situation?

There certainly has been additional stress on each of the boys during the past two months.

Due to the nature of his job, Jason would appreciate it if no personal questions were asked at work. Chris is away from the public eye in the shop at his work, and deals with very few customers. Aaron stays at home or hangs with friends as he continues to heal. His date to return to work is still tentative, pending his ability to be on his feet for the duration of his shifts.

Ben

Progress Monday

2009-04-06T19:02:00.001-07:00

Judy took (her first) 6 steps today!! She is able to do this with only holding onto the parallel bars. This was ahead of the schedule that occupational therapy had planned for her. She is also able to sit up and lay down with hardly any assistance. She can now shift her position in bed without assistance. After her steps today she spent another 2 hours sitting in the wheelchair. Even after all this she was still wide awake and not exhausted like she has been up to now. Praise the Lord for her progress!!

Today they also eliminated her breakfast feeds and are letting her eat breakfast. The feeding tube is still providing two meals per day, although she is supplementing those as well with foods she is eating at lunch and supper.

Judy mentioned that she is skipping most of the optional pain medication (about half of what she had been getting). This is also helping her to have more energy.

Judy was so excited with these accomplishments that she was giggling like a little girl; and I was crying because I was so excited for her!!

I spend my first day back at work and it went quite well. I think I am holding out quite well and am able to get the rest needed.

Ben

SUNDAY

2009-04-05T18:03:00.001-07:00

Judy is making vast improvements!! Yesterday she was eating yogurt by herself, she was drinking from the straw with a cup in her hand. she is able to move more. she has been standing up every day this week. She has been able to keep almost all of her food down. Her energy is up and her pain level is going down - to the point that she is able to skip some of the in-between pain meds. She is also able to reach the buttons that adjust her bed. The progress has been amazing.

This week the staff want to have discussions regarding GF Strong (rehab in Vancouver). So, as soon as I know more, I will post it here.

I am returning to work 4 hours a day starting tomorrow. So, I will see how that will go. My ankle is still quite big, but as per the Dr's instructions, I have been putting some weight on it and...it will take awhile before I can walk without a limp.

Aaron is also recovering well, but has to be careful how much he is on his feet and what type of chair he sits in.

Ben

Wednesday

2009-04-01T22:00:00.001-07:00

Today was a very good day. Judy stood up using a walker, then she sat in her wheelchair for 50 minutes.

She was given a special spoon and was able to feed herself a container of yogurt (without making a mess!). She is also continuing to drink water and juice. She was able to brush her teeth by herself with an electric tooth brush. Judy loves to brush her teeth for longer periods, and this enabled her to do so for the first time.

There was no throwing up today, lets pray that trend continues. Her pain is also slowly easing. In the past two days Judy mentioned that twice she has been able to go 4 hours and skip the dose at two hours in-between.

Ben :)

Tuesday, Mar 31

2009-03-31T23:20:00.001-07:00

Yesterday Judy stood up on her own feet. It was difficult but she succeeded. Today she stood up again (2x), and was a bit easier. From the standing position, she was put into a wheel chair, where she sat for 40 minutes. She is definitely progressing!!

As far as Sunday's reference to the possibility of a blood clot, none was found. The pain has also eased that caused the concern. The blood test that indicated the possibility may have a variety of things that could have pointed in this direction. At this point the Dr is satisfied that there isn't one.

Judy is still throwing up, but not near as much as Sunday and Monday. There may be a variety of causes, and we are working with the medical staff on it. We are thankful it is improving.

Judy's pain level is slowly decreasing. Most of her pain is usually in her neck and shoulder area. Throwing up also causes pain in the ribs and chest area. Please pray for continued healing and decrease in pain.

Ben

Sunday, Mar 29

2009-03-29T21:52:00.000-07:00

Friday and Saturday were also very good days. Judy had energy and was drinking water and juice as well as a starbucks tea. Monday they plan to have Judy standing up for the first time. Praise the Lord for answered prayers in this regard.

Sunday was a difficult day. Judy had additional pain in her chest, blood tests were done, a blood clot was indicated, a CT scan was done, and in answer to our prayers the results were negative. I am going back to the hospital early tomorrow to be there when we talk to the Dr about the next steps.

Sunday evening I was also aboe to give Judy water - about 1/2 cup, and orange juice - another half cup. it is so good to see her be able to swallow these foods. We are very grateful for answered prayer with slow but steady progress in this area.

Please continue to pray for release from pain, as well as being able to process food and not throwing up. Both of these are currently slowing progress.

Ben

Thursday, Mar 26

2009-03-26T22:32:00.001-07:00

Today was another very good day. Judy was feeling good all day.

The Dr is very pleased with the results of the MRI, which showed that no further surgeries will be needed for Judy's recovery. It also showed that the space for the spinal cord is adequate for recovery. The Dr also mentioned going to oral pain control medication (longer lasting) next week. Judy is healing as prayed for by all and hoped for by medical staff...

Judy was able to enjoy sipping some water and juice this evening. She has been very thirsty and enjoys it very much.

Judy's spirits were very good today, and that is also encouraging for all of us. God is Good!

Ben

Wednesday, Mar 25

2009-03-25T22:49:00.001-07:00

Tonight Judy was definitely feeling better again this evening. She even asked for visitors. With that said, I only ask you to keep your visits short. If she is sleeping, let her sleep. Mornings seem to be better than the rest of the day, although she has some energy before bed time as well. Physio wears her out for the afternoon, and sometimes the evening as well.

Tuesday was a tough day. It started with swallowing tests being recorded on an X-ray. This was fairly successful. Judy is allowed to have juices and soft foods. With that being said, changes were also made to her feeding schedule and the pace of feeding via the tube. The result was that she was throwing up for most of Tuesday afternoon and a few times on Wednesday. So, for now she is back to the Monday schedule for feeding.

After the X-ray Judy went for her MRI. Yes, we had the retainers in her teeth removed at 8:30 am before the MRI. How did it go? Well she had been told it would be 16 minutes, but instead it was 50 minutes. Her pain meds were an hour overdue and the stretcher was extremely uncomfortable. She was exhausted for the rest of the day. She was able to hold herself together emotionally for the MRI, but struggled after that.

Overall, there is progress, stability and some predictability. She appears to react to any changes in medication or feeding. So we are trying to reduce the changes to minor ones for now.

Judy's Cousin June sent a verse that meant an awful lot to her today. "And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To him be the power for ever and ever. Amen" 1 Peter 5:10-11.

We are all very humbled through your continued prayers, ecouragement, support, assistance, and other help that is being provided though a variety of ways to all of us during this trial.

Ben

Monday, Mar 23

2009-03-23T20:47:00.001-07:00

Today has been a very exciting day. For the first time, Judy has been able to touch her face with her left hand. Her strength and mobility are increasing.

Part of Judy's therapy involves putting her on a wheelchair. As a result, we have been able to take Judy out of her room and to other parts of the hospital.

Tuesday she will be having an MRI at 11:00 am. The retainers in her mouth should be removed by 9:00 am (preventing the possibility of burns from the wires.

We are grateful for your prayers and to see Judy's progress.

Ben

Sunday, March 22

2009-03-22T23:56:00.000-07:00

My apologies for waiting to update the information. I have been focusing on spending time with Judy while at the same time being there for our 3 boys.

Judy is continuing to show improvement. Yesterday and today she was almost able to reach her face (within about 4") with her left hand. She is also starting to gain strength in her arms an hands.

Judy's sister Ellie is here visiting until Tuesday, so she has been spending a significant amount of time with Judy. This has been very goo for both of them, as well as for me (knowing that Judy is not alone even when I am not there).

Thanks again too for all the beautiful flowers (there are 8 arrangements there now). It is an excellent reminder of the beauty of God's handiwork (which we are also part of).

There is another MRI planned for this week. this has brought some apprehension for both Judy and myself. The last time it caused burns in her mouth from the retainers she has on her teeth. We will be having more discussions on how to avoid the burns.

Ben

Wednesday, Mar 18

2009-03-18T21:44:00.000-07:00

Judy had another excellent day. She was up about 3/4 of an hour with physio today, including some time sitting in her wheelchair. She is starting to be able to move all parts of her arms and legs. It is very encouraging to see the consistent progress (even though is seems to be coming very slow).

As you can tell, I am a bit excited today, as this has been a significant improvement since Judy arrived here last Thursday night. She is also starting to be able to cut back on the medication at times. Thanks so much for your continued support and prayers.

The nursing staff at PGRH is treating Judy very well. Judy is also getting to a point where she can communicate with them as to what she needs and expects from them as far as care is concerned.

Ben

Tuesday, Mar 17

2009-03-17T09:50:00.001-07:00

Judy had a couple of very good days over the weekend. This was very encouraging. He pain was down and her energy was up, a very good combination. We are praying for more days like that. It was also very good for all 3 boys and myself to be able to visit Judy together.

Yesterday her medication was changed (1:00 pm) and the result was not good. The side effects of morphine were not bearable for Judy. As a result it was changed back at 10:00 pm. She has been on very strong pain control medication since the accident. I would ask you to pray that her pain will decrease, and that she will be able to pass the swallowing test next week. This would open up other options for pain control.

I will be stopping in to see her this morning, and then carry on with errands that eventually need to get done. For the past two weeks almost all of my time has been spent with her at the hospital. The result is that I am often very tired when I get home I am not able to provide an update.

I am still on crutches and my biggest challenge is getting around. Aaron has to be very careful how much time he spends on his feet. Other than that we are doing quite well.

We appreciate your continued prayers and support,
Ben

Saturday, Mar 14

2009-03-14T17:44:00.000-07:00

Thanks again for all your prayers. For now Judy is in a private room at the hospital. We continue to request the no visit policy until further notice.

With each change there are challenges. the current on is balancing the pain and medication. this is a challenge for all medical staff involved. The care provided to Judy the first couple of challenging days has been excellent.

Judy is experiencing what we can only describe as "reverser nightmares". In her dreams everything is normal (as life was before the accident), but then she wakes up to the reality of her injuries. This is difficult each time it happens for Judy.

Ben

Friday, March 13

2009-03-13T13:44:00.001-07:00

Judy is back home (at PGRH) in Prince George. Judy and I arrived at midnight last night. The transfer went well, though Judy did not get any pain medication for over 5 hours (the norm has been every two hours). I will be going to see her today and see how she is doing today.

At this time we (the family) are requesting no visitors until she is strong enough to accept visitors. Hopefully this will change soon, as I know that many of you are very anxious to see her. Her challenges remain pain control and strength. As the pain decreases her strength will also increase, but the progress on that front has been very slow.

Thanks so much for all of your continued thoughts, encouragement, and your prayers for recovery. We continue to cherish them.

Ben

Please pray

2009-03-11T21:50:00.001-07:00

We were informed this afternoon that the insurance company that was to pay for the flight is no longer interested in doing so. The next step is that everything will be started again on Thursday morning with each possibly responsible insurance company.

Please pray that the transfer will still be able take place tomorrow.

Ben

2009-03-11T13:05:00.000-07:00

JUDY IS COMING HOME (Aaron is excited and happy)

Aaron here, I just talked to Ben and Judy is coming home tomorrow sometime in the morning, and the plan is still that no visitors will be allowed to see her without her personal permission, for the first day or two it will probably be just family, after that, we'll see what happens.

Judy has been having a few good days in a row, and her feeding schedule has changed a little, they're only feeding her breakfast, lunch, dinner, and night lunch, kinda like a normal rotation, and she's starting to eat food herself without the feeding tube, soft food though

Friday

2009-03-06T20:35:00.001-08:00

Most of the day is done. Judy is resting peacefully again. Her pain is currently under control. Her Mom is staying at the hospital tonight. there was a lot of testing done today to check why she was in so much pain. There were no specific issues that came to light. For now her medication has been increased and it is helping. Please pray that she has a good night.

There is still no firm word on when a bed will be available in Prince George. Please pray that one will be available soon.

I was staying at Sandford's till this morning. Tonight I am at my nephew Phil,s home.
Ben

2009-03-06T11:02:00.000-08:00

Sorry for the long time of silence, this is Aaron, and I'm just posting to let everyone know that Ben has gone to Edmonton to Visit Judy, and at first it was going great, but last night her nurse did not give proper treatment, and has caused Judy severe pain and suffering, her pain medication has been doubled since yesterday and she really needs prayer that the care she receives improves, or she will not; and that her pain lessens and she can relax again.

Monday, 2-Mar-09

2009-03-02T16:23:00.001-08:00

The surgery to move the feeding tube was completed this morning. Judy is
back in her room recovering. She is still in quite a bit of pain, but is
relaxing after the surgery.

Her niece Jessica is there with her today. Our son Chris and Judy's brother
Harold were in Edmonton to see her on the week-end.

I am flying to see Judy tomorrow morning. My plan is to stay there until she
is transferred either to Prince George or to Vancouver, depending on a
variety of factors. This will be the first time we can actually talk face to
face since the accident. I did see her twice before Aaron and I were
transferred back here, and we have talked (short conversations) on the phone
several times.

How do you throw up with 8 broken ribs?
Please pray that Judy won't have to as she starts being fed again.

Ben

FRIDAY

2009-02-27T10:20:00.001-08:00

Greetings:
Judy's surgery (moving the feeding tube) has been delayed again because
somebody dropped the ball.
Her bloodwork and clotting issue is not staying with her file, even though
they have been informed several times. As a result, blookwork is being done
again today, with results back in a day and a half, then the surgery "may"
take place Monday. They have been talking of doing this surgery all week
already. This is a very simple procedure.

I am quite frustrated with the hospital because this is not the first time
her care has been less than satifactory from my perspective. It is even
harder for me because I am not able to be there to ensure she gets proper
care.

Please pray for Judy especially because it is affecting her outlook. She is
frustrated today, and as a result, she gets more heavily sedated by hospital
staff. A positive outlook is very important for healing, which is becoming
more difficult at this (Royal Alex) hospital.

Ben

THURSDAY 26-Feb-09

2009-02-26T11:49:00.001-08:00

Greetings Friends
Judy is still experiencing a lot of headaches. These are made worse by the
noise in the room she is in. We are praying that she can be put in a private
room in the next day or two. The Dr's want to put her feeding tune in
through her abdomen (it is currently through her nasal passage). She has
been schedule for surgery for a couple of days already, and I was informed
that it will not take place again today, but that she will need to fast and
that it will be done tomorrow morning. Pray for a successful operation with
no complications.

Aaron and I went to see the surgeon here in PG, but our problems are so
minor (in comparison to Judy's) it is hard for me to even mention them. We
are healing quite well, although there is a possibility that I might need
more surgery in my foot once I start walking on it. Time will tell. Aaron
still has some numbness in some areas on his legs and feet, but is able to
walk and get around, although he still tires quickly. Please pray for proper
healing.

PLEASE CONTINUE PRAYING FOR JUDY

2009-02-24T22:20:00.001-08:00

Dear Friends:
Judy had a rough day yesterday and today.
She has several medical issues:
1. She is in constant pain. Please pray for release from the pain.
2. She feels alone. I know she needs me, the boys and her friends from
"home" around her at this time. Please pray that she can be transferred here
soon, even if it is only for a short time.
3. There has been some spinal cord damage, affecting her from speech to
movements of almost all parts of the body. To retrain her body will require
months of physio for her. timing and location are still being considered.
4. Her eyesight has been affected. She is seeing double, although the Dr's
expect this to heal over time.
Please continue to pray for her, especially in regard to the first two
concerns. She is starting to realize the damage to the spinal cord and the
impact it may have on her future. This is very difficult for Judy and
myself, as well as the boys.

Approximate time frames as we know them today:
Judy's return to Prince George could be in the next 1 to 2 weeks.
She will need to heal for another 6 weeks or so after she would arrive here.
After this she would be transferred for physio to GF Strong in Vancouver
(likely).

Each of these are approximate as the Dr's have informed us to date. We know
that GOD can improve her healing process, something we all are praying for.
At the same time we are also praying for God's will to be done in each of
our lives (especially Judy) as we are affected by this accident.

I am very much aware of the prayers and other contributions of so many,
because alone we could not walk through this dark and deep valley...

Ben Wiebe

SUNDAY

2009-02-22T22:41:00.001-08:00

Greetings Friends!
Sunday is now over and Aaron and I were both able to attend church today. It
was so good to be back. Our strength is improving, but after Church I had to
have a nap, I was too exhausted.
Judy is slowly improving, she is enjoying being out of ICU and not having
any tubes down her throat, as well as breath on her own. She had to throw up
today, which has caused additional pain in her ribs. She is still in a lot
of pain, especially her head, ribs and back. Both the boys and I were able
to talk to her again today. It is so good to start communicating with her
again.
Ben